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Hi Raff!
So right now, I'm kinda clueless. I keep having day to day relationships with a guy, like we'd go out for 3 hours then break up, then a month later do the same thing. What should I say to him to make him.. realize that I don't like him that much?
It's kinda weird, I know he loves me a lot, and he'd do anything for me. Sometimes he'd come with roses to my dorm and surprise me.
I just don't know what to do :/
Hey there :), sorry for the late reply I've been very busy with work recently so I've been to tired to log on much the past week lol ><.Quote:
Originally Posted by DruIdFalls
Anyways...this is a fairly straight forward issue because it's experienced commonly really, and unfortunately this is how most people also deal with it to because they don't know how to deal with it properly.
Now one of the most well known factors in any relationships even the disfunctional ones like your own, (no offense intended there) is if your wanting to break up with someone for whatever reason then the longer its left for the harder it becomes. And that's so very true, because eventually even though you don't mean it to happen that person becomes a big part of your live.
You grow a custom to there face so to speak, so letting them go becomes that much harder, which is why it's always best to do it sooner rather then later. And also if it helps you, you need to really understand how much more your going to hurt this guy by dragging it out longer, because he'll only become more attached to you. And you can be easily blamed for leading him on for not being honest with him so you can also be easily labeled as the bad guy.
If truth to be told nobody can actually tell you how to break up with somebody....because if we're being serious here that's what your asking deep down, so I can't help you there I can only help you in the way I have. And that's by sharing the reality of the situation with you. Even though it may hurt more the concept is still the same with this being no different to pulling off a plaster.
The quicker it's done the better, you know it's gonna happen sooner or later right ? So you've just got to suck it up and break the news to him, you'll only be doing your self especially him a favour as well like I've explained above.
I wish you both the best of luck.
Hey Raff,
I've got a problem...sorta. Well, me and my girlfriend's relationship has been going great so far, but lately something has been starting to annoy me, and I feel like and asshole when I do get annoyed. Recently, it seems like she is getting more repetitive and predictable. I get annoyed with certain things she does - let's say someone is having a conversation, and she totally buds in just to agree (and she always agrees the same way, "you're absolutely right") and it just bugs me when she does that.
Also, sometimes it even seems like she insults me. If she gets a little tempered at me, she has no problem in showing it, like she'll just be rude and bring up something old just to make me feel like a dick, and that also annoys me.
I don't know if my problem is her fault or mine - I think I might have some sort of disorder where I get annoyed with people way too fast, and irritated with small things. Should I talk to her about it, because I don't want to hurt her feelings when most of it seems like it's my fault.
- Cameron
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Originally Posted by SavageSteez
Haha welcome to a real relationship my friend. Once a couple has left there "honeymoon period" of there relationship you'll start to notice one by one the annoying traits about the person you are with. And of course just like you've previously mentioned your reading your girlfriend easily, she's become predictable etc.
All this is normal, and is also bound to happen when 2 people especially partners spending much time with one another so there's nothing to worry about. The last thing you wanna do is bring any of this up though, because all it will look like is that your trying to start a fight. We all have our annoying things about one another, but you care for her right ? So you've just got to accept it. Either that or just move on, but if you do move on then you'll find your self doing that forever because you can't settle down with someone due to something a bit annoying about them.
Another thing you must realize is that when it comes to arguments, if it's not such a big deal to begin with meaning if it's not worth arguing about then just don't bite back. Seriously...life will be so much more easier for your self if you let the things which aren't a big deal slide. Women can snap and start a argument out of no where, just take it like a man don't bitch back and it will be over quickly and without upset.
Ah, I feel much better knowing almost every relationship has these kind of flaws. I always just brush it off, as I realize it really isn't a big deal, and I will still love her no matter what.Quote:
Originally Posted by JC/Raiden
I totally agree with you that when a couple spends too much time together, both of us really get irritable. Really good to hear it coming from another guy. I don't get her sometimes, haha, one day she'll be really cool and easy to hand out with (today) and the next (literally) she'll be crazy moody. Oh well, that's chicks.
Thanks a lot for the great advice Raff, mine and the rest of this thread, you're doing a great job. Keep it up.
- Cameron
Raff i got a problem .
Its not a really problem , its my emotions .. i feel like my life is one step closer at the edge . I lost my friends but it wasn't my fault cuz they jelous cuz i got more then them . Im very lonely right now and i think my mind really fucked up . And its not only friends i got really bad marks at school ... Where my life is headin man i don't know everything is like a nightmare everything is better then what ive been through . Im sitting here and i just wondering why god give me this lesson is it for good or for bad ... am i crazy or its some kind of lesson that i had to learn . What you think about it am i crazy for real , is my mind fucked up for real , am i losin everything ... and this is no fake or somethin this is what is on my soul right now !
The type of problem that you have can only truly be eliminated by one person, and that's you. Why you may ask ? Purely because it's your self that your battling against, you clearly have many emotional demons that you must lay to rest.Quote:
Originally Posted by ReyMysterio
First you need to pause and actually ask your self why is life turning in the direction it currently is. Instead of thinking that the world is closing in on you and beating your self up inside, fight back and actually do something about it.
Trust me your not alone in this world, not at all, not by a long shot. Unless you start acting Optimistic then your just gonna continue to sink deeper in to the depression which looks like your currently in at the moment.
If what you said about your friends is true then forget about them. Friends like that are never friends in the first place, meet new people and get to know them instead. If your grades at school are honestly bothering you then act now, and again do something about it. Speak to a schools guidance councilor as that's what there there for, you can even discuss things which your teachers on the subjects you think your doing bad on. And even your family, it's not like there going to refuse to help you.
You see, it's all about placing everything in to perspective. While your thoughts and emotions are running all over the place things come across as much worse then what they actually are. So take a deep breath, relax and start taking care of each problem one at a time. Be positive, keep a smile on your face. Trust me it will go along way.
Thx man , you help me with your words ..
That's really okay :), just happy to help especially if it does genuinely help. Best of luck to you my friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by ReyMysterio
Not funny, Raff is actually taking a lot of his time for this. You should appreciate a bit more.Quote:
Originally Posted by habsta
Which ones better an active account or a banned one ?Quote:
Originally Posted by habsta
Enjoy your time out for taking the piss, because that's only pissed me off.
And thank you, much appreciated.Quote:
Originally Posted by Elkin
righttt okay.
number one.
there is this guy that i am friends with, and he has just been such a cock towards me, ive tried talking to him and hes just been so negative towards me, and i got pissed off that i deleted him off of my msn altogether.
do you think i should re add him and talk to him about it or something?
2.
my bf smokes the green and has done for a long time before we were going out, but i have noticed that it does change him so much and i dont like it really, and it makes me feel sad. he has cut down but i still dont like it.
Well it all depends just how well you know this friend of yours, is he someone you've recently got to know. Or is he someone you've known for years and you'd consider as part of your life ?Quote:
Originally Posted by ***LILK@OS***
Either way, the way he is towards you is impossible to pin point due to the fact there could be many many reasons for this. This may not have anything to do with you whats so ever but he just doesn't wanna deal with you or anyone else for that matter.
The safest thing to do though would be yes to re add him to MSN, just send him a simple message saying you'll be around to talk to when he's ready to and just hope that's he's ok. If he's bothered at all he'll message you back when he's good & ready.
Unfortunately this isn't something you really can complain about, because as you've already mentioned he was on weed before you both got together. So in that sense you've taken/accepted him for what he is.Quote:
Originally Posted by ***LILK@OS***
I understand your concern, I'd be the same I'd even try my part in getting him to quit but it's pointless having a massive argument about it because you started dating him realizing he smoked it. The best thing you can do is just make it clear your concerned about his health, and that you care enough to not want anything bad to happen to him.
Also make it clear that you don't like the person that he turns in to once he's smoked alot. If this issue bothers you so much then the best thing you can do speak your true feelings about the matter. Perhaps once he realizes that it upsets you he'll make the effort to at least cut down alot. And if he doesn't, well....It's for you to judge which direction your wanting to go.
Best of luck darlin x.
k well i will when i get the chance.Quote:
Originally Posted by JC/Raiden
and he has cut down and he wants to cut down
Why u "Help" People?