Best friend/feelings advice?

[wounded]

Think about how that would make her feel...and how it would affect her future decisions.
1. You tell her, and she has it on her mind for the rest of her life...and has doubts about the wedding, and thinks about what it would be like with you instead of the other dude.
2. You tell her, she also loves you, she breaks up with the other dude, she doesn't go to the army...and doesn't have a wedding, and in turn ruins the other dude's life a bit as well.

It might not play out that way obviously...but just really think about how it would affect all of you. Yeah you have emotions for her, but "IF YOU REALLY loved her", you'd do what ever is best for her, or what she thinks is best for her at the moment anyways...
Up to you...but it will change everything that's for sure.

[kb3z0n]

Good luck with that.

[GohanSSJ]

You simple have to ask yourself if you want to live the rest of your life with the "what if" question.

[Pfa]

...kinda same here except no marriages involved. So it's no pressure for me. yay!

Anyway, follow what u think is right. Do you want to keep a friendship love or more-than-friend love. Personally, I wouldn't tell her and keep it all in. When you go college, you'll find more girls (may be fall in love).

But then again, I don't know what REAL LOVE is. After going out with over 5 girls, I'm still waiting to FALL IN LOVE. Is this stuff for real or only in movies? -_-

Good luck.

[playg]

ur screwed ether way tell her and she dont like ul probly ruin the friendship dont tell her and ul e wondering if she liked u back or not and if she did never talked about it cause she didnt thnik ul feel same way and is probly with other dude alrdy -.-

[Kurt]

Never let an opportunity slide especially when its to do with love, You'll never forgive yourself, And probably keep thinking about it, Do what u feel is right, And my opinion is tell her.

[GohanSSJ]

But then again, I don't know what REAL LOVE is. After going out with over 5 girls, I'm still waiting to FALL IN LOVE. Is this stuff for real or only in movies? -_-

...kinda same here except no marriages involved. So it's no pressure for me. yay!

How would that be the same then?
Liking someone or wanting someone, is very different from being in love with someone, the first is just a urge, a logical choice so to speak, being in love is a whole different kind of story, then it's no longer a choice in a sense, it's more of a battle of telling her or not.
Anyway i've lost a friend this way, but it beats the alternative of wondering about it, asking the what if question, because that one is a bitch.
Besides in all honesty, could you live with not telling her and still being her friend? Being a friend will be too damn hard, so you either loose her that way as a friend for sure (atleast as a real friend), or you take the risk, have a chance that you loose her as a friend, have a chance that it doesn't change much except for it being weird for a while, or the ideal scenario that she actually feels the same way.

The latter is unlikely, marriage is in most cases no joke and all, but again, what are the alternatives, how will it make you feel if you do nothing?

[RuleZ]

Think about how that would make her feel...and how it would affect her future decisions.
1. You tell her, and she has it on her mind for the rest of her life...and has doubts about the wedding, and thinks about what it would be like with you instead of the other dude.
2. You tell her, she also loves you, she breaks up with the other dude, she doesn't go to the army...and doesn't have a wedding, and in turn ruins the other dude's life a bit as well.

It might not play out that way obviously...but just really think about how it would affect all of you. Yeah you have emotions for her, but "IF YOU REALLY loved her", you'd do what ever is best for her, or what she thinks is best for her at the moment anyways...
Up to you...but it will change everything that's for sure.

Good Luck :)

[Pfa]

@Gohan: I guess it isn't the same at all, then, maybe just the best friend part. But looking back, I think I made the right choice because now it seems like it was just an infatuation. Also, it was kind of like last year at high school.

So, what's the update on this? I'm kinda curious how it turns out.

[theninjaway]

You simple have to ask yourself if you want to live the rest of your life with the "what if" question.

Exactly the point. What could've been? Ask the question as time's running out. You don't want her to leave and then feel a stomach full of regret, or jealousy when and if they get married and your at their wedding.

[GohanSSJ]

Ehm the jealousy thing won't just go away, fact is that if the love is real, then if they get married, you will feel shit either way. Telling her won't really make you feel better unless she has similar feelings, it just keeps you from wondering what could have been.

[sutsurikeru]

Don't ruin what you have already - i made this mistake and i dont speak to her anymore =/

[Apollovin]

Its really just one big mind fuck to put it bluntly.

But... If you love them let them go. Think about the long run, What would rather have? A great friendship for life? Or a love that might die out...

Friends are forever remember. And thats a fact.
You can love a friend just as much as anyone else, but with physical limitations as the difference, And when it comes down to "true love" stuff like that shouldn't be a problem. It should be a thing about a spending time with them getting to know them thats all but everyones beliefs are different, were all just a basic outline in a way.

Dwell on the basics. Yea it might sound simple and bland but when it comes down to it its pretty much the best and most fool proof method for figuring anything out.

You'll know the rite thing to do when it comes down to it!


Shit im deep. LOL