[Sad] Dad is Making Life Tough

lol u should go to a counseling forum this is RAGEzone lol but anyways get used to it in till he abuses you physically i mean, than that's when u should do something about it.

All am gonna say is find a person who would listen you out and who your dad would listen to.
This is like the ultimate solution coz then they'd settle the problem for you.
I really cant be of more help in this coz I literally have no idea how to deal with such situations. :|
Maybe contact a counsellor or something?

Yes, I know this is a bumped thread but I would like to share something as well...


I've actually been in a similar situation. My father has a rare heart disease which pretty much limits his working capability. Whenever his heart acts up, he has to take a Nitrate. If he takes 3 Nitrates, he has to go to the hospital immedietely, as it could kill him, regardless of how far apart it was taken. He has has double/triple bypass and nothing can fix it.

With that being said, I allowed him to move in with me. At the time, he was working. Well, needless to say, he lost his job because of his heart condition. So, needless to say, I supported him, his wife, and my baby sister for 9 months. All the while, my father was doing the same thing your father is/was doing. My best advice to you is to know when to cut ties.

You can still love him and keep in contact with him. I mean, he is your father regardless. You just have to make the change in your life where you have to do things that will benefit you. Best of luck to you man. I hope things got better since you posted this.

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Originally Posted by maplepuppet

this situation is actually happening to me

before i begin to tell you the story, i'd like to say i have 2 pet birds (they are part of this)
so my dad has tons of diseases, which will last him all his life. So anyways, he doesn't have a job now, and he is miserable.
But what he can do, is play online poker, and that's all he does.
Anyways, so he's been having to take steroids to treat his diseases, which makes him go on outrages.
And in the first place, he wasn't such a nice guy. (usually)
so my birds just love to chirp. And when my dad is trying to sleep (instead of getting a job) and the birds are squeaking, he goes on an outrage.
And he blames me and my brother for his problems, he just yells at us as it's our fault for all his problems.
And, whenever our internet goes out when he's playing poker, he shuts hi computer, walks right into our room, and yells and cusses at us. Even though he didn't do anything.
He's selfish.
And so i come home today. My birds are chirping so i plan to get them out when i'm done eating. Right when i grab my snack and settle in to relax, he busts into my room and yells at the top of his lungs. Get the birds now! Or i'm giving them away! (that just fcked me off)
and so i say i will when i'm done eating.
Then without thinking he says. Maybe they need food also!
(even though they have bird seed, honey sticks, and millet.
So then he stomps to his room and slams the door.
And so he makes my life hell.
Now i'm here with my birds, letting people know how bad i really have it
anyways, right now
i can't feel any love for him at all
and now i sit here, crying as i type this.
With no hope of change.
So i need some help getting through this
and, i still want to keep my dad, because somewhere deep inside, i know he's good


please comment on how you feel about my situation

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tl;dr.

Maybe because your dad doesn't have a job and losing money on the poker. That makes his feel getting worst. Then , he scold on you to make him feel better.

Still, I feel sorry for you. Try talking to him and ask him if he can change.

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Originally Posted by Jamie

He isnt abusing him, hes only shouting at him like every father does but just a little too far.

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my dad doesnt shout at me.
thats probably because he has such an abusive father like the one being spoke about, but my dads father used to beat my grandmother. broke her jaw, collar bone ect. also beat my uncle.
while my dad stayed in his room trying to learn how to stay calm.

it is horrible i know. an ex bf of mine had a dad like that, but used to do it to his mum. called her gollywog and other offencive things (she was black) and then came up to him with blood all over his face after she fought back.

then he would just hit him aswell.

best thing is to try and stay calm, get as much advice as you can. even professional if needed.

This threads 10 months old & was bumped by a Troll abusing the kid who started the thread. So on that note thread closed.