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I can say not all women are assholes. :3 The women on here are awesome! Im sorry to hear about your break up! And yours Kitten. I saw it on facebook, but I wasnt sure if it was a frape or real =/
I think the best way to get over any relationship is, even though it is hard, think of all the good things that you had and did. Even if they are small. It means that you start to forget the shitty horrible things, and become less bitter, and in my experiance, move on. Dont completly forget the shit, as you need that for the future to make sure you dont get into that situatuion.
The other thing is support from friends. You NEED the support. Someone who can sit there and listen to the shit that comes out of your mouth lol. Someone who will go and do things with you, and makes you happy, reminds you that life goes on.
From the sounds of it she really broke your heart, and you were looking for the fix in the bottom of someones vagina (you probably missed Gohans, cos you would be fixed by now) but I hope you are on the mend now, need anyone to talk to I am here. Although a stranger, I have been told that I am quite a good person to talk to lol. just PM me msn, skype whatever :)
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@ Chewbecca
I'm agreeing with you not every girl around the world is like that i change my words because that was totally wrong for me to say my apologies in this case.
Well let's just say that I'm not in the state of currently having a girlfriend anymore and that I'm not feeling like having a girlfriend anymore nor date anyone because i just need to get old enough and find the right time for me to find a person who doesn't break hearts and blame others for doing things wrong whilst them doing it wrong their self.
So let's just hope that i find the right one soon enough and that I'm able to even restore more.
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I find it kind off annoying when my ex came On line on facebook and told me that she haves a relationship for a month now - I deleted her because that only make me feel worst again what do you guys think is that a good idea or not?
I think personally that it is a good idea because when i keep talking to her and i keep seeing her picture then i keep getting pain and i don't want to have pain anymore.
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Evilkitten
If that feels the best for you then yes you did the right thing. I've only ever kept in touch with one of my ex's but otherwise they are all in the past and I have moved on from them. Deleting them from Facebook of MSN helped me the most. =)
Yeah agree I don't really want to get in touch with her anymore and so i have decided to remove and delete her from anything where i had her on because she really left me with pain and i don't really want to live anymore in pain .
that's not the whole plan I'm trying to get over this and i can do that with removing her and like MasterD said - Destroy all the pictures and all the stuff you got from her because that would only get me back from being all emotional again.
So like you said it was a good choice and i don't really regret it.
Thanks all ;-)
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I know how you feel man, It's hard to let the ones you love go. But it's even harder when you know everyday you'll be in pain just to get them out of your thoughts.
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Alizay
I know how you feel man, It's hard to let the ones you love go. But it's even harder when you know everyday you'll be in pain just to get them out of your thoughts.
I can't move on because i really love her but what is really hard is trying to move on when you are having a lot of pain from her sometimes you just feel like crying and i can say that i did many many times but now I'm just trying to get over it and that's not that easy for someone like me or someone like you.
I'm trying to get over it and it's processing slow but it hopefully will process faster soon!
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MasterD
Well i've been out with boys tonight feeling a bit like shite and smashed!
Anyway i've split up with the missus after 4 years and don't wanna speak or text ANYBODY that i know in the general sense (Work, friends yadi ya) So i thought i'd speak to my old school ragezone buddies!
Background story i was with her from 2009 up to june 2011 split up and banged everything that i could for 6 months thought id give it ago again as that lifestyle was lonely (mad as it sounds) but now 11 months down the line were back straight up in the same situation i've just told her to get her shit and get the fuck out of my house and she has. It's not even about other women this time i couldn't give a fuck if i sat at home bashing one out for a year as long as i can over this.
I'm a work a holic working mostly 7 days a week and shit has been grinding on my relationship for ages. I just wanna focus on getting over things.
As sad as it sounds i feel as i can express on here as there is no come back from anything (she has no idea what ragezone is at all)
Fuck women they are all twats! Anyway i need some support so yeah kthxbye! Rambling now! Woop much love MD
Sorry to hear that brother. These last few months I've went through a very similar thing. Found out my ex-gf was cheating on me & sending naked pics to guys and stupid shit like that, and as much as I loved her at the time, I had to tell her to fuck off. But of course, because we had a daughter together, I allowed her to stay because I would never essentially put my daughter on the street. So I waited a very long time for her to get her own apartment and in a nutshell, she did. But the time that she was there, wow, I was pissed off every single second of every day. The worst of all this is that my daughter is going to feel this change in lifestyle the most. I won't get to see her as much and all that. Kinda sucks. Point I'm trying to make here is; for people like us, who've wasted years of our life on a useless relationship, the only thing we have left to do is soldier on and tank all the emotional bullshit that comes along with this sort of bullshit aftermath.
Emotions suck. :p
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Vendaku~Metal
Sorry to hear that brother. These last few months I've went through a very similar thing. Found out my ex-gf was cheating on me & sending naked pics to guys and stupid shit like that, and as much as I loved her at the time, I had to tell her to fuck off. But of course, because we had a daughter together, I allowed her to stay because I would never essentially put my daughter on the street. So I waited a very long time for her to get her own apartment and in a nutshell, she did. But the time that she was there, wow, I was pissed off every single second of every day. The worst of all this is that my daughter is going to feel this change in lifestyle the most. I won't get to see her as much and all that. Kinda sucks. Point I'm trying to make here is; for people like us, who've wasted years of our life on a useless relationship, the only thing we have left to do is soldier on and tank all the emotional bullshit that comes along with this sort of bullshit aftermath.
Emotions suck. :p
I'm feeling you brother - But don't worry just like me you will get over it soon and the pain that you are currently having is really going to go away time by time like Evil & MasterD said just try forgetting her/him and just move on
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Point I'm trying to make here is; for people like us, who've wasted years of our life on a useless relationship, the only thing we have left to do is soldier on and tank all the emotional bullshit that comes along with this sort of bullshit aftermath
Totally true i should probably put that in my signature because that is totally true!
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Bit drunk when i posted this. Spoke to her today and told her i need a bit of space and time. Night out with boys next week to watch the hatton fight so its all good so far.
Just times like now that it hits me, finished work sat around bored and thinking about things. Hey ho just pick yourself up and get on with it.
Oh and thanks for all the words of wisdom and support i'm taking it all on board.
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MasterD
Bit drunk when i posted this. Spoke to her today and told her i need a bit of space and time. Night out with boys next week to watch the hatton fight so its all good so far.
Just times like now that it hits me, finished work sat around bored and thinking about things. Hey ho just pick yourself up and get on with it.
Oh and thanks for all the words of wisdom and support i'm taking it all on board.
Let's get on board and sail away from all the sorrow and all the pain that we're currently having let's live a good life and drink some beers to throw all our pain away whilst we are sailing to nowhere but who cares as long as we are away from the people who have hurtled us.
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MasterD
Bit drunk when i posted this. Spoke to her today and told her i need a bit of space and time. Night out with boys next week to watch the hatton fight so its all good so far.
Just times like now that it hits me, finished work sat around bored and thinking about things. Hey ho just pick yourself up and get on with it.
Oh and thanks for all the words of wisdom and support i'm taking it all on board.
Yeah lol. Truthfully when you sit around doing nothing in the aftermath of any relationship, you quickly discover that you are your own worst enemy and that never ends well usually. :p
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Yeah lol. Truthfully when you sit around doing nothing in the aftermath of any relationship, you quickly discover that you are your own worst enemy and that never ends well usually. :p
True it's the reason why Ive decided not to have a relation anymore until I think that I'm fully ready for it so i won't be having a relation until further due because i really need to get rid of all this pain and all these emotional feelings before i can really move on to a new relation with hopefully someone who isn't like my ex girlfriend.
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So yeah, conclusion today we officially ended it amicably. Cleared my head and realised its not for the best to live out of comfort instead of love.
Single life for a while now me thinks see how that goes, under the radar no social media etc... causes problems!
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Man, the single life is where its at lol. All I do now is lift weights like a boss. I plan to be very careful picking my next girlfriend though, thats for sure. Won't be for awhile.
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Vendaku~Metal
Man, the single life is where its at lol. All I do now is lift weights like a boss. I plan to be very careful picking my next girlfriend though, thats for sure. Won't be for awhile.
I'm glad I'm single hurray! what a good feeling to be single again!
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spruitje
I'm glad I'm single hurray! what a good feeling to be single again!
You are just so completely full of shit.
How about you read what you wrote yesterday and you try and tell me you are not talking utter shit.
Maybe you should try for once being honest, because in every topic you post, you talk shit, you say 1 thing and then the complete opposite a little later. I don't care what your feelings truly are, all I know that you've been blabbering shit.
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You are just so completely full of shit.
How about you read what you wrote yesterday and you try and tell me you are not talking utter shit.
Maybe you should try for once being honest, because in every topic you post, you talk shit, you say 1 thing and then the complete opposite a little later. I don't care what your feelings truly are, all I know that you've been blabbering shit.
Hmm maybe you are talking for once in a time crap again on a reply i made.
Clearly you have something against me which makes me not care because i may have posted yesterday that i felt like total shit - Today is a new day and don't say that people can't change feelings in one day because i have been having these feelings this bad feelings since december 2011 - So you are indeed obviously talking utter shit and all that you do is flame on others posts just because you might not like that person ( Not made me care)
Please let me have my posts and i let you have yours don't hate because you dislike someone this bad and just ignore the posts that he makes because you are clearly messing up the thread.
Yes I'm feeling better now because I've began to get over this girl who've broke my heart and have left me in pain for a very long time and I'm finding out that the point that me and my ex girlfriend are through is actually better then living in sorrow all the time
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My words of wisdom has sorted his mush out. He's a changed man he's not ruled by a woman who has big thumbs, have u spruitje?
or it could be bull shite who knows.
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My words of wisdom has sorted his mush out. He's a changed man he's not ruled by a woman who has big thumbs, have u spruitje?
or it could be bull shite who knows.
I never lied to anybody - The whole point is I'm trying to tell my story and keep you updated with how I'm feeling like you and Vendaku keep each other updated on how it's going - In this case I'm feeling better but then Benjamin comes with his posting matters and he always has a reason to bash the forum and to bash off forum members.
Clearly proves that he doesn't like me - Not a problem many people have many haters and i can't change that but he's clearly changing this forum post in to a utter flame fest and that was not suppose to be happening at all.
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My words of wisdom has sorted his mush out. He's a changed man he's not ruled by a woman who has big thumbs
Sorry but i didn't really know what you mean with that .
If you mean like - He's a changed man he isn't going to be ruled by a girl who's always commanding over her with her big thumbs - Then i agree I'm not going to be commanded anymore but in this case i do not know what you really mean with that.
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spruitje
I never lied to anybody - The whole point is I'm trying to tell my story and keep you updated with how I'm feeling like you and Vendaku keep each other updated on how it's going - In this case I'm feeling better but then Benjamin comes with his posting matters and he always has a reason to bash the forum and to bash off forum members.
Clearly proves that he doesn't like me - Not a problem many people have many haters and i can't change that but he's clearly changing this forum post in to a utter flame fest and that was not suppose to be happening at all.
Sorry but i didn't really know what you mean with that .
If you mean like - He's a changed man he isn't going to be ruled by a girl who's always commanding over her with her big thumbs - Then i agree I'm not going to be commanded anymore but in this case i do not know what you really mean with that.
Maybe a bit to much English slang I forget we are bi-lingual here but you are correct.
I find it hard to type things on here these days, Manchester has corrupted my vocabulary!
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Maybe a bit to much English slang I forget we are bi-lingual here but you are correct.
I find it hard to type things on here these days, Manchester has corrupted my vocabulary!
Well that's fine I'm just trying to point something out too but my grammar and my spelling isn't that correct.
So I've told my story you've seen it Vendaku and other viewers have seen it and we have been discussing it for a very long time that I was having emotional problems that i was really sad all the time - And when I'm feeling better then i shall indeed change again getting back to normal and i told you guys before that I'm not feeling like re-starting a relation with someone.
Then Gohan steps in and starts to bash off my posts because he always does that and i don't really like it - Clearly what he's pointing out is not making sense first of all because I've never lied to anyone and I'm not 100% feeling better but I can at least be happy that I'm single again.
Blabbering shit just doesn't make sense at all because that's not what I'm doing and it's not what i am going to do.
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Well thats between you two pal, not getting involved!
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MasterD
Well thats between you two pal, not getting involved!
Agree - I'm not really going to make any further replies on him because he is trying to prove a point that is incorrect and we where talking and i wasn't involving him in anything so i don't know why he thinks that he has a sadden right to step in and just bash off.
Anyway I'm feeling a bit better I've been stopping with listening emotional music because that's also the cause of getting/being emotional and how are you doing?
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spruitje
Clearly you have something against me which makes me not care because i may have posted yesterday that i felt like total shit - Today is a new day and don't say that people can't change feelings in one day because i have been having these feelings this bad feelings since december 2011 - So you are indeed obviously talking utter shit and all that you do is flame on others posts just because you might not like that person ( Not made me care)
You just proved my point. You've been feeling shit for almost a year, including yesterday. Now it's all good. Bitch please.
If you think you can manipulate your way out of this, then you are sadly mistaken. In the past couple of weeks you received like 3 bans and been told off by several people.
You say all I do is flame others? Really, who else did I flame? The now banned Error 404 (who's nickname you took because you thought it was funny...) or TriumpH who has disappeared because he was full of shit?
All you've been doing so far is siding with whichever seems to be popular, you tell us you feel shit about that girl, then feel it, don't pretend to feel good because some else says that single life is good.
My whole job is talking with people, figuring out what's wrong, analyzing their behaviour and doing something positive with it. Now in your case the best thing to do is call you out on this absolutely fake behaviour, because it won't help you in life, no one will ever trust you as long as you are not being honest with them. I have plenty of friends and I can tell you that they get annoyed by me at times, you know why they are still my friends? Because I'm always honest with them, whether I'm nice, or annoying, they know they get the real me.
You seriously remind of Ted from Scrubs:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QHsydNf0mM
I've told you before many times and will keep telling you everytime you talk crap, be yourself, form your own opinion and stop trying to make up excuses.
Btw don't bother argueing that I'm wrong, aside from it not working, you have proven and even admitted to have talked shit, so even if you were completely right now, no one will believe it. So again, just take my advice.
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All you've been doing so far is siding with whichever seems to be popular, you tell us you feel shit about that girl, then feel it, don't pretend to feel good because some else says that single life is good.
My whole job is talking with people, figuring out what's wrong, analyzing their behavior and doing something positive with it. Now in your case the best thing to do is call you out on this absolutely fake behavior, because it won't help you in life, no one will ever trust you as long as you are not being honest with them. I have plenty of friends and I can tell you that they get annoyed by me at times, you know why they are still my friends? Because I'm always honest with them, whether I'm nice, or annoying, they know they get the real me.
I agree this whole part
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All you've been doing so far is siding with whichever seems to be popular, you tell us you feel shit about that girl, then feel it, don't pretend to feel good because some else says that single life is good.
My whole job is talking with people, figuring out what's wrong, analyzing their behavior and doing something positive with it. Now in your case the best thing to do is call you out on this absolutely fake behavior, because it won't help you in life, no one will ever trust you as long as you are not being honest with them. I have plenty of friends and I can tell you that they get annoyed by me at times, you know why they are still my friends? Because I'm always honest with them, whether I'm nice, or annoying, they know they get the real me.
I've got to be honest that you obviously have read my story and you clearly trying to analyze what is wrong - Yes I've indeed lied when i said i was doing fine but i have my reasons for it - Clearly I'm not still feeling fine and I'm just trying to move my feelings away from this forum because then people are going to think that I'm a typical person who's trying to act and make friends with being sad because he really had a bad relation carrying on his back which he is still stuck with and he currently can't get rid off.
You totally are right there but i just don't want to be the typical person who's trying to be sad over the forum that's why I'm trying to act like I'm all cool with it so i don't come over like some kind of sad boy who's trying to get fully attention for having a shit relation which he's still carrying.
I might take your advice about the whole being honest thing to be honest i do have my ups and downs with you but in this case you where right and I'm taking the advice - About being honest and having your friends on the side and not being honest and making enemies because you are lying to those who believe what you are now saying like ''I'm fine'' that's indeed a lie because deep inside you are still feeling like shit.
But here's a question for you Gohan: I'm still having the pain from that girl but how do i get rid of it because it's really making me get emotional etc how do i get rid of this pain because obviously have i been with it for a hour and i can't just get rid of it
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If you think you can manipulate your way out of this, then you are sadly mistaken. In the past couple of weeks you received like 3 bans and been told off by several people.
You say all I do is flame others? Really, who else did I flame? The now banned Error 404 (who's nickname you took because you thought it was funny...) or TriumpH who has disappeared because he was full of shit?
Yeah I've made horrible mistakes and now I'm making them again and i just don't want to and I've tried apologizing and I've tried anything i could because to be honest i don't want enemies i want to have friends where you can talk with about how you are feeling like you are talking with your friends that.
