What a horrible day

[I Rule MU]

Hey man I had the exact same problem a few years back. What made it worse for me was when I heard the slightest whisper, I would freak out because I thought people were pointing out flaws about my presentation. If you read what you are supposed to be presenting like 20 times before hand, and know the material, trust me it becomes a lot easier. I've actually developed a liking for public speaking now because I know that if I have a grasp on what I am going to be saying, I will be great. Try it. Most probably it will work for you as well.

[The_Gatekeeper_]

Cheer up, buddy. Not everyone is confident from the start. You just need some motivation.

I Rule MU, if someone was whispering during a speech of mine or talking I'd get pissed off and throw something or tell them to shut up. Someone started falling asleep during my senior project presentation and I made a big deal about it.

[I Rule MU]

Oh yeah man now people don't dare because they know I will humiliate them. Knowing what you're going to be talking about leads to confidence which leads to no one interrupting you.

[sp123me]

Well just speak aloud and get it over with. No need to cry or stop midsentence. Had a speech earlier today. I dont care about my poor speech marks. Its english for goodness sake!

[QuTiie` GaLz`]

Aw, at least your not worst than mine.

My worst day :

I faint in school while i am standing at the hall singing song. Then, my teacher have to hug me to the office and call my mom. Then the other teachers take some sort of things and make me feel pain. *ouches*. It was horrible and shame.

[ChewBecca]

ive got a presentation today.
im bricking it.

my group didnt let me input anything to the presentation, and one person is now ill.
they havent sent me any of the info i need
FFS
and now i got a headache.

[Negata]

Jamie, pull that stick out of your ass and eat it. You have 9 pages of infractions for a reason - cos you're a dick. You talk alot of shit for a 16 year old, i'd love to see what you do when you finally do grow up and the real world hits you.

I agree with him though, you're just being a dick yourself here. Piratedude asked for help with stage fright and you reply with something else and tell him to forget about it. I've started to notice your replies for a few weeks now and think it's time for you to turn the boat and become nicer again. Especially as a mod you're showing a very bad example and making an unwelcoming atmosphere to newer members.



On-topic. I know the stage fright thing, and there's actually lots you can do about it. The simplest way is probably what Exy already said, get confidence in yourself. Not that easy to do though.

Usually, don't try and memorize your whole presentation word-to-word, because if you do, you won't feel natural speaking, and if you forget just one word in middle (and you will), you risk completely forgetting about where you were.

Know your subject. Be sure what you're about to talk about is important enough for you to feel comfortable in knowing everyone should hear this, and not only listen to you because they have to. If you can't feel your subject is good, no one else will, either, and you should pick something else or do more work in finding the essence of it.

Challenge yourself. This is what I did. Not too long ago I decided I must do something about it as there's no chance I'd manage to avoid presentations for the rest of my life. You must figure out your own place and way to find attention, to me what worked was starting to teach some exercise classes at our university. I was scared shitless the first time I had to open my mouth to 50 people, but from then on it gradually went away... really fast. 2 weeks later I realized I like being one the one speaking. It didn't only help with my stage fright, but I now enjoy being the center of attention more in everyday life, too. "Do everyday one thing that scares you."

Oh, one more thing. Don't be too hard on yourself but focus on the good parts. Turn this failure around and open up with a joke of it next time you have to speak to release the tension. Besides, when people realize you don't take yourself too seriously, no one will care to judge you if you make a mistake.

edit: A dear topic to me, and just remembered a tip to when you're in the situation: purposely try and speak a bit slower than you normally would. When you hear your own slow, calm voice, it should make you feel more comfortable.

[King Grub]

I agree with him though, you're just being a dick yourself here. Piratedude asked for help with stage fright and you reply with something else and tell him to forget about it. I've started to notice your replies for a few weeks now and think it's time for you to turn the boat and become nicer again. Especially as a mod you're showing a very bad example and making an unwelcoming atmosphere to newer members.



On-topic. I know the stage fright thing, and there's actually lots you can do about it. The simplest way is probably what Exy already said, get confidence in yourself. Not that easy to do though.

Usually, don't try and memorize your whole presentation word-to-word, because if you do, you won't feel natural speaking, and if you forget just one word in middle (and you will), you risk completely forgetting about where you were.

Know your subject. Be sure what you're about to talk about is important enough for you to feel comfortable in knowing everyone should hear this, and not only listen to you because they have to. If you can't feel your subject is good, no one else will, either, and you should pick something else or do more work in finding the essence of it.

Challenge yourself. This is what I did. Not too long ago I decided I must do something about it as there's no chance I'd manage to avoid presentations for the rest of my life. You must figure out your own place and way to find attention, to me what worked was starting to teach some exercise classes at our university. I was scared shitless the first time I had to open my mouth to 50 people, but from then on it gradually went away... really fast. 2 weeks later I realized I like being one the one speaking. It didn't only help with my stage fright, but I now enjoy being the center of attention more in everyday life, too. "Do everyday one thing that scares you."

Oh, one more thing. Don't be too hard on yourself but focus on the good parts. Turn this failure around and open up with a joke of it next time you have to speak to release the tension. Besides, when people realize you don't take yourself too seriously, no one will care to judge you if you make a mistake.

edit: A dear topic to me, and just remembered a tip to when you're in the situation: purposely try and speak a bit slower than you normally would. When you hear your own slow, calm voice, it should make you feel more comfortable.

First of all, i wanna say thanks to everyone for their tips and specially you Negata :p.

If i do know my 'Subject' do you really think it'll make things
easier? Cus in january i'm having this 'show' again and this time i must be preperd in everyway.

I'd usally joke around but in this moment i'm so fucking
scared, i can't do shiet :(.
Since none in the class really have talked about this today
i think it's pretty much forgotten.

So what i can do is:
- learn my subject
- sound as mature as possible.
- Joke if something goes wrong.
-talk slower to make myself feel more comfortable.

[Negata]

So what i can do is:
1 learn my subject
2 sound as mature as possible.
3 Joke if something goes wrong.
4 talk slower to make myself feel more comfortable.

Well I'm obviously not an expert in the area, but from my own experience these would apply as:
1) Try to find the truly important stuff out of it. Try and make it interesting for yourself, if you're into it, everyone else will notice it and take interest into what you say, too. Some boring topics can be hard, but for example if it's about lame history, picture the gore of those wars or piles of poo on the streets if it's about medieval times. Whatever helps you color it up for yourself.
2) I never said this, don't worry about it. Just sound yourself. :)
3) You don't need to try hard to make jokes, for example if you forget your point in the middle of a sentence, no need to panic, this time that feels like hours to you is swift for the audience. Just go like "damn, early dementia... uh.. why don't you guys play a tic-tac-toe while I get myself together ... Ok got it, so what I mean is..."
4) When you talk slow and calmly, you're also less likely to start talking faster than you think.

[King Grub]

Well I'm obviously not an expert in the area, but from my own experience these would apply as:
1) Try to find the truly important stuff out of it. Try and make it interesting for yourself, if you're into it, everyone else will notice it and take interest into what you say, too. Some boring topics can be hard, but for example if it's about lame history, picture the gore of those wars or piles of poo on the streets if it's about medieval times. Whatever helps you color it up for yourself.
2) I never said this, don't worry about it. Just sound yourself. :)
3) You don't need to try hard to make jokes, for example if you forget your point in the middle of a sentence, no need to panic, this time that feels like hours to you is swift for the audience. Just go like "damn, early dementia... uh.. why don't you guys play a tic-tac-toe while I get myself together ... Ok got it, so what I mean is..."
4) When you talk slow and calmly, you're also less likely to start talking faster than you think.

1) Yeah, i'll think about this
2) I meant, that i should'nt learn every single world cus it wont make me sound natrual.
3) Alright ;D
4) Lol okay:)

Thanks once again