Server Help

[windmaster0]

Ok. So here's the deal.

I have a website a .com[kandjdev.com} website and we are trying to use the mysql with the website. It works and all. But we have two problems at the moment. The server cannot connect even though I'm using the right ip to connect to. And 2. If i get it connected when i try and log in to my server it says "MySql server has gone away". Is there anyway to fix this.

And/or can i have the .com site redirect the mysql registerations and what not to my computer so I can use the mysql database on my computer.

Anyone please help?
Please and thanks.

[MentaL]