Finaly got the Server running, Client connects and I can do stuff in game. I was stuck at a few places in this guide, so I will explain it and maybe it can help someone else.
Step 2 Since I am using MSSQLserver Express you have to change each global.ini file. Change all (local) to (local)\SQLEXPRESS else Datacenter will not connect when running the RA Service Monitor.
Step 2.3 did not work for me. Searching the forums I saw a solution that worked for me, make a batch file in C:\Runewaker\Server\Realm_01_Service and call it whatever (i did xyz.bat) in that batch file put Start PlayerCenter.exe PlayerCenter.ini then from windows can just double click to start, and you get the Expected error message (long string of letters and numbers seperated with full stops). Can't copy and paste so careful when you type it into the pass generator and yes include the full stops as well.
Step 3. Don't know much about SQL, most of my time was spent on this step. I used Microsoft SQL Server Express 2012 64bit. and Microsoft SQL Management Studio 64bit.
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(or google those names). The files I selected were: SQLEXPR_x64_ENU.exe and SQLManagementStudio_x64_ENU.exe
During the SQL server install the only option I selected was a Local Server and rest i left default. I also chose to not run any updates offered.
Management studio was a straight install.
First time running Studio it asked to connect to a server, I connected to the server " .\SqlExpress " with windows login.
Made a user "romuser" by navigating to Security/Logins, right clicked folder Logins and create new login. Here I selected SQL Server Authentication and made login name as ' romuser ' untick enforce password expiration, untick user must change password. As for password make something you can remember. In other option for Server Roles, User Mapping, Securables I ticked all boxes (not sure if it was needed but I did anyhow). Click OK, and go back in and check Tick Boxes if any are new).
Disconnected from the server then logged in with new login I made using SQL Server Authentication
I was then able to go back to the guide and import the schema files one by one and used the Execute option in Studio after each one.
At step 3.3.4 I chose the slow option (for me was only a couple of minutes). I took slow method cause did not want hidden information.
When I made my 1st account it did not have GM rights, I then had to go back to SQL Studio, log in as romuser, navigate to databases/ROM_World/Tables/dbo.roledata_account right click it and select TOP 200 ROWS. then in the ManageLv column change the number to 12 and saved that by pressing the arrow button at the bottom of the window (can also give yourself Dias [AccountMoney] and Ruby [BonusMoney] while you are there)
After that change I logged in that toon and was able to issue the command /gm ? 2013RuneWaker_Rom0628 and almost all of the GM commands I tried worked.
I get a lot of errors about missing GMTOOLS showing in the RA Serer Controller. I still have not found a working link for them, maybe someone can repost them and info where to put those files.
I hope my experience helps others.