Heres what you gotta do...
i had same problem. SO do this :
For Kobold:
Open up your mysql editor and go to realmd DB and open the table realmlist. edit the ip to be your lan ip not localhost. then go to the LS and RS folder and go to conf and edit the realm_Server.conf and login_Server.conf to have the ip at your lan ip so 10.0.0.50 <== your lan ip... ok after youve done that save and exit your text editor. now if your only playing on lan you just need to connect to 10.0.0.5 but if your connecting thorugh your real ip then your need to forward port 8085 ,3724,3725 and set the ip in realmlist to your WAN ip not LAN . Then people should be able to connect:wavetowel :wavetowel :strip:
Mangos:
Open up the realmd DB and edit realmlist so the ip in there is your real ip or if your playing lan your lan ip. then forward ports 3427-3800 and 8085. thats what i did and it worked for both EMU's :strip:
I hope this Helps Sirry for wasting your time if it doesn't