My parents just told me they may be getting a divorce :(
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My parents just told me they may be getting a divorce :(
that sucks :(
doesnt have to be a bad thing though... maybe it's for the best
hang in there :)
i dont really think it would be for the best.. my dad has more money and stuff than my mom so i would end up living with him.. however, he is not really the likeable type. he drinks a lot, cusses in the house a lot, etc.
i feel bad for you mate :(
but as neo said, this might be for the best
Thats bad :(
everything happens for a reason man, look at it that way.
things like this are always not welcomed but always something good comes up the end.
just try to hand on
:(
Hopefully they'll sort their differences out but if not, I'm sure it's for the best.
>< Tough time for all then :s sure ull be ok dude. Keep ya chin up
stay strong m8
its something thats out of your control so take it as it comes
poor u dude poor u
i no wat ur going throu atm my parents spilt up a few months ago & my dad had more money than my money & he had more money etc...
but i ended up wit my mum but iam happy less money but ho care's
they are only spilting up coz they have a sort of problem wit my dad it was he best's me (out of four kids me) iam twice the size of him storger than him but i could never lift a hand 2 him very werid i no but now iam happy n i hope u end up the same m8 gd luck
i feel for you man
my gf left me yesterday after 2 years
she used the excuse ' she didnt feel comfortable around me anymore'
it may feel bad, but in the end things could get better
it could work out that you get more attention from them both, and get spoilt from them both
i remember when my parents split up, i was with my dad every other day untill he told me he was having a sex change!
does that mean he's my mum?
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Originally Posted by pd69
nah he still ur dad coz he was orignily ur dad so it still make him ur dad
Then don't live with him, simple.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaoii767
And from expierence i can tell you that this really hasn't have to be bad, my parents both got out of it what they want i think, my dad always wanted to be free, i don't think he actually wanted childeren, but you know in that time it was normal you would get married and get kids and all, even with my mom he tryed to do things he wanted, but he was still stuck with us so he couldn't do everything he wanted, now he can, and i believe he is kinda happier then he used to be.
My mom had always problems standing up for herself, now she has a bf for the last 4 years that is like the totall opposit of my father, he is a nice guys really, anyway he got her to do all sorts of things to change that, and it has alot, she is happier now aswell.
Normal couples just break up when they see it isn't going to work out, it's best for them both, everyone see's it like that, but when there are childeren involved then it's always harder, my mom would of left my father like 16 years years ago if it wasn't for me and my brothers, she put our happiness of living with both parents before her own, if it was the right decision or not remains the question, personally i'm glad for myself, but i wish for my mom that she would of done it back then.
If your parents aren't happy together anymore then just accept that, you can't change it, and don't hope for them to get together again, it's rare that it happens and that it actually works out, just accept it, this doesn't mean you have to be happy with it, but just accept it.
If you want to live with your mom even though she has less money, then just say so, i believe your parents would respect your choice, mine did when i told them i wanted to live with my dad (i ended up with my mom anyway) and if your dad would make a problem out of it then he is probably just wasting his time, because unless your mom is unstable and he can proove it, then your say on it would mean more to a judge then anything else your dad could say.
We are all at the mercy of adults who are always telling us kids how to live our lives, but they can't seem to figure how to live their's. It's a shame really when kids have more sense than their parents. Maybe that's how our race will end, not by nukes or meteors or disease but by UNCARING parents. It's really sad, sometimes i wish i wasn't even born.
Sorry about that last post. Just a lot of grief and anger pouring out.
hey man dont feel bad..things happen for a reason and your not the only one that is going through something like this so dont feel alone. Talk to your friends about it it always helps to talk. Also if that doesnt help you can always go to a counselour like a school counselour that could help to.. Remember we are always here for you and your friends are too! so keep you chin up!
Actually it gets worse and worse, it used to be that when there where childeren it was the mother who stayed home and took care of them, and the father who worked, and in some rare cases the other way around.Quote:
Originally Posted by lakandula
These days alot of parents just both work and take their kids somewhere else, i don't say they don't care, but imo one of the parents shouldn't work untill those kids go to school, and then that one parent could take a part time job and all, it is just better for the kids.
You cant just "accept" something.Everyone had to deal with diferent shit in his/her life.If we dont have a say we cant accpept anything.And btw, isnt the law something like if you are 16 years of age or older you can shoose with who to stay?
Kaoii itll be for the best wud u rather them fighting all the time or tlking?
trustme my mum n dad split up itll get better well it has for me
well said.Quote:
Originally Posted by DiGiDJ
My parents are the abusive type, I never figured why they didn't get divorced. The way they treated me and my brother was beyond shameful, these people were also hippies. It is a disgusting mix, closed minded people who are abusive... always stoned or drunk and violent.
Not sure about it, but like i said, unless it can be proved that 1 of the parents is unstable or whatever then a judge would listen to what the child has to say, they always want what's best for the kid, if they have no preference in which parent the child should be with (mind you that money doesn't play a role, unless one of them is to poor to support a child) then they will just act on what the child wants, because that would be the best for the child then.Quote:
Originally Posted by -=MR=-