What to do?in a sitch like this

before i start i know i allways come to ragezone with problems with life but i get the best response.

My girlfriends grandmother treats my girlfriend like crap and her little sister makes shit for her by her grandmother by lying about stuff and her grandmother allways stands up for her little sister and not her and when i shouted at her grandmother for allways making her look like shit i got told i must grow up and stop standing up for her even if i think i saw something but i never saw it right coz i dont know them as well as she does and says that my girlfriend is a stuiped whore and i know she aint and everybody around can see what is happening but nobody will stand up to her ( shes like YOU KNOW WHO from harry potter) and her grandmother will send my girlfriend away if i stand up one more time for her :P any advice would be nice please thanks ragezone

How long have you been together o_o

rig her zimmer frame.

@Carter: How is that relevant? Also your signature is gay. They were gay 5 years ago, they are even gayer now.

The only thing you can do is be there for her, tell her she matters, tell her you care etc etc, keep yourself out of her relationship with her grandmother as i'm assuming she lives with her, so unless you can actually give her a place to stay then you shouldn't do anything to make that part of her life even harder, even if it's fucked up.

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Originally Posted by GohanSSJ

@Carter: How is that relevant? Also your signature is gay. They were gay 5 years ago, they are even gayer now.

The only thing you can do is be there for her, tell her she matters, tell her you care etc etc, keep yourself out of her relationship with her grandmother as i'm assuming she lives with her, so unless you can actually give her a place to stay then you shouldn't do anything to make that part of her life even harder, even if it's fucked up.

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What are you talking about. I was just curious. Doesn't what you say is what everyone else say o.o?

ShrinkZone.

A cynical answer, find a new girlfriend.

A more empathetic one, beat the old hag up.

But meh, a tad more serious now. If the old woman does not want to have any direct contact with you to reason, your possibilities are indeed limited then. It would be best to support her, just as Gohan said, be there for her, love her. But; got any idea whether your girl resembles her mother? And were there any conflicts between her grandmother and her mother? Furthermore, where is her mother?

Actually i was in the EXACT position you are in now. My GF's mother was doing exactly that to my GF ; telling her she's worthless, blaming anything and everything on her, and her younger sister would lie about things to get her in trouble and her mother would always believe her sister... she was sick once so her mother made an appointment to see the doctor for 1 WEEK later. 1 week. I said that if she was still even sick by then she'll probably be close to dying. So i took her to the doctor the next day. Her mother raged at me and kept saying "how dare you take her to the doctor without her guardians permission!". I told her that the legal age to go to the doctor without a guardian is 16 and she was 17. Her mother shut up. She is such a moron considering he mum is a nurse so she of all people should know that.

Anyway... Eventually her mum's negligence and idiocy finally caught up with her ; she was told 1 YEAR in advance that she needed to vacate her house and decided to wait till there was 1 MONTH left before she even started looking for a new place. She even got a job during that time as a real estate agent but still did not even use it to get her a new place. Time came for her to move out and she had not found a new place to stay, so she was forced to move to the eastern states. I told my GF that she could stay with me so she stayed here with me. Finally escaped her mother.

She's moving back to the eastern states at the end of next year but at her own place, no way she's living with her mother.

How old is your GF? Do what we did and just wait till she is of legal age. Then you can defy her grandmother as much as you want and she cannot do anything cos she no longer has guardianship over her.

Well, in all honesty, there's no reason she HAS to be in the same building as her grandmother. If she chooses to be and all of this is true, then you're dating a true dipshit.

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Well, in all honesty, there's no reason she HAS to be in the same building as her grandmother. If she chooses to be and all of this is true, then you're dating a true dipshit.

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You are the dipshit.

If she is below the legal age, yes, there is a VERY good reason why she has to be in the same building as her grandmother. You sir were obviously too much of an idiot to notice that her grandmother is her legal guardian.

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Originally Posted by totoman127

Well, in all honesty, there's no reason she HAS to be in the same building as her grandmother. If she chooses to be and all of this is true, then you're dating a true dipshit.

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There is a reason as to why she is living in the same building as her Grand Mother. She probably had personal problems with her real parents, and her grandmother was generous enough to take full custody of her. Honestly, you have to think about that kind those kind of things before you really talk.

Don't get involved in family matters. Support your girlfriend, and give her advice on how to stand up to her grandmother herself. If you try to get involved, you will be looked on as an outsider, and therefore treated like shit, and in the end her grandmother WILL kick her out, and she will make sure that your girlfriend realizes that it's all your fault.

Support from the sidelines, don't take direct action. Encourage your girlfriend to keep up her self-confidence, and to talk back and fend for her self...or to have a serious chat with her little sister and grandmother on her feelings.

Once again... DO NOT get involved directly, nothing good will come out of it.

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Originally Posted by CarterFTWWW

What are you talking about. I was just curious. Doesn't what you say is what everyone else say o.o?

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Your post was completely pointless and idiotic, he asks a serious question, you then respond with a dumb and irrelevant question.

Also if i understand you correctly, which is hard considering your English is crap, then my answer would be that my post is relevant due to the fact that i was the first 1 to point that out. It doesn't matter whether 1, 5, 10 or a million people will say the same, just aslong as the person hasn't heard it yet.

im just saying, if she is actuly 16/17 or older than ask her to move in with you... if not
than just support her as mutch as you can and dont let go. if you know what i mean.
take care of her etc etc etc. now if she ent 16/17 or older than just wait and keep
on telling her to wait with you etc etc etc. sorry if my advice might sound abit stupid or so.
but if i were in your shoes thats deffenatly what i would do.

~good luck.

So by summarizing what has been said, I concluded that you should stay away from her grandmother.


Wasn't that nice and short?

thanks for some of the advice she is 15 turning 16 only next year tho :( in South Africa you have to be 16 to make your own decisions in life like if you want to leave school and start working or leave home ect so ill try not to get involved with her grandmother for the next few months and just try hang in and give her some tips on how to stand up for herself. thanks again ragezone :)

You should:

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Poke her in the eye
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Blind the bitch
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Reference, anyone?

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Originally Posted by KyleEnos

You should:

Slap her with ya dick
Slap her with ya dick

Slap her with ya dick
Slap her with ya dick

Poke her in the eye
Poke her in the eye

Poke her in the eye
Poke her in the eye

Blind the bitch
Blind the bitch


Reference, anyone?

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Lol.

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Originally Posted by KyleEnos

You should:

Slap her with ya dick
Slap her with ya dick

Slap her with ya dick
Slap her with ya dick

Poke her in the eye
Poke her in the eye

Poke her in the eye
Poke her in the eye

Blind the bitch
Blind the bitch


Reference, anyone?

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Chris Rock.