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The thing was that i met a girl 4 years ago in 6 grade, we were friends..., then she left skool and came bak in 8th grade, i made a friendship with her and everything we were best friends, we went out to the movies parties and so much more, her mom knew me she was very nice to me same as i was to her.

The Story continues.... in 9th grade i felt that i want more than a friendship with her something bigger but the time was passing and it was getting difficult to me to talk to her as i was shy.. always when i woke up i said 'today ill do it' but it wasnt like that. One day i decided to go and send her a letter with my friend telling about my feelings.. and sent her an email too... when i got her email back i was shocked cuz she was like "i wasnt specting this from u that u are my best friend i dont know if this can happen now...so on..." that email broke my heart but still i tryed to show her what i felt.

Something that was really bad was the she liked to be with guys in any party she went so i was like, i cant accept this i was jelous and when something of that happened i didnt talk to her in weeks, then i noticed that i couldn't live without hearing her voice and seeing her face. And we started talking again like always...

One day we were in vacations then she talked to me on the phone and told me y000 lets go somewhere tonight, i was like yeah why not... My friend got the car and went to pick her up and her friend... we went someplace, we got out at 11:00pm then she said 'i still got one hour to get home what u want to do' then we were like danno, and her friend said lets go to the beach and drink beer, i was like hell yeah... she had to get home at 12am....

We never got to the beach but we went a place Called Bay Side that the u have a lot of fun it was late 12:30am and we started drinking some kind of alcohol danno what was it it wasnt beer, i was a little bit drunk and it made me say things that when i was shy i didnt want to... i said let me give u a kiss, she was like 'no thats bad' i think she was a little bit drunk but she didnt drink that much as i did. It was late so we decided to take her home in the way home i told her so many shits and stuff... She was crying and also cuz her big bro was going to hit her hard... it made me sad a lot.

Her mom told us to not call her again, not talk her again or anything similar, i was so sorry because her big bro hit her and she had to do commercials on TV cuz she is a model. And with her face like that she couldnt... When the skool started the 8th of august i didnt talk to her or anything but her birthday was the 13th and i wanted to give her something, with the money that i got from my birthday the 3rd of august, i went to the shop and bought her a Big Pink Bear it was very beautiful.

I took it to her home and knocked the door and her mom opened 'i was like shit' and told her give this to 'Mariam' her name... she was like wait here ill call her for you, she came out and we talked i told her to opened it when i was gone, but she was so happy i dont know she wanted me to go inside and have dinner with her family i was shy about goin it cuz all the things that happened. She convinced me and i spent all the night with her, we had fun.

Today i was on the bus stop going to skool then a friend of mine comes and started talking about some party that was the day before and she was like oo yeah i had so much fun i ended kissing a guy and stuff... i was like okkk... and then she said 'ooo and mariam she was there too, yeah she ended kissing a guy too' i was in shock when i heard that and said 'o yeah cool so good u guys had fun....'.

When i got to skool i went into my friends group and said hi to all of them, she was standed there and i didnt said Hi to her and went to other place....

Now i just wanted to ask u guys if any1 of u could recomend me some advices to forget her.... i dont want to let her hurt myself anymore.. wat i feel about her is so big that is almost impossible to do it and thats why im asking u... i know ull say just forget her... but it isnt that easy as u are saying.

Sorry to make u read that lot but i had to take this out.

I have no advice to give you but I felt everything while you reading your story. Not so easy to forget about someone you've been obsessed about for so long.

Convince yourself she did wrong to you and start to hate her. Easiest way.

Or take the painful and long way and try to understand her and support her as a friend, eventually you will be ok with it.

Maybe you want someone to tell you you should still go on about it, but based on what you said here: it's not going to happen.

I feel for you, really. :(



(Might also consider jumping off a cliff depending on how you feel about life in general. It is an easy way out of everything.)

No real advice except to forget about it, you can't offer her what she wants (at least not to get the results you want)

man that bites

i fealt sad after reading ur story, ive something a little similar happen to me. its crap how it can eat u up inside

the best thing i can tell u is to not obsess over it, to build relationships with other girls. maybe they wont lead to anything but ull learn more about urself and what u want in the process m8

I've been to the same thing sadly(still am), best thing is to just keep your relationship without seeing each other, just by phone or msn... and just see each other rarely..
there is no easy out, but time will do his part.
good luck

Nah why should he, if she is a good friend then why lose her because of it, it's better to deal with it while remaining friends then to lose her.

Btw besides the point that just phone and msn won't work as you would see each other sooner or later anyway, it also doesn't matter shit, you do realise that alot of people fall in love with each other over the internet, tbh i think a relationship started on the internet has a better chance of succes, when people talk face to face they don't say alot of things, but through text people open theirselves up alot more, so if you really talk about more then just some dumb chat then you will learn the other person way better then normal couples can do in years, which makes the chances of succes better.


Anyway really good friends with who you can talk about alot of things are hard to find, losing a friend would be bad enough, but a really good friend would be just stupid, not worth it to eas up the pain a little bit.

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Originally Posted by GohanSSJ

Nah why should he, if she is a good friend then why lose her because of it, it's better to deal with it while remaining friends then to lose her.

Btw besides the point that just phone and msn won't work as you would see each other sooner or later anyway, it also doesn't matter shit, you do realise that alot of people fall in love with each other over the internet, tbh i think a relationship started on the internet has a better chance of succes, when people talk face to face they don't say alot of things, but through text people open theirselves up alot more, so if you really talk about more then just some dumb chat then you will learn the other person way better then normal couples can do in years, which makes the chances of succes better.


Anyway really good friends with who you can talk about alot of things are hard to find, losing a friend would be bad enough, but a really good friend would be just stupid, not worth it to eas up the pain a little bit.

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He shouldn't loose her...

I gave him that advice because it helped me, I have a friend, which I told everything to and I still do, so does she... the problem is she has a bf... which sucked for me because I was inlove with her big time... seeing her less makes me feel less bad than I did... I do jelous sometimes and miss her, but not like I used too... we are still best friends though and see each other every week or so and talk every day on the phone.
Though this process took months :s

If you go for the not see each other way then you shouldn't have any contact at all, any contact can trigger your feelings again.

i really appreciate ur advices they have give me choices to choose from. I dont know what happens that when i c her with outher guy i get jelous is it me that im crazy or something or what is it i tryed many ways but cant hide it.

whenever anything emotional happens to me i deal with it and it just goes away with time...

I rather do this sharp n short, which means either to become normal friend or to become my girlfriend in that cases.
Approach her, tell her that u have feelings for her that he care for her n stuffs like tat.
Ask her directly to see if u guys can go further or only to maintain at this point of relationship. Well, its gonna be hard but I guess it should be the correct way of handling things.
May all the ragezones luck stay with you + mine too ;)

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Originally Posted by mushichai

I rather do this sharp n short, which means either to become normal friend or to become my girlfriend in that cases.
Approach her, tell her that u have feelings for her that he care for her n stuffs like tat.
Ask her directly to see if u guys can go further or only to maintain at this point of relationship. Well, its gonna be hard but I guess it should be the correct way of handling things.
May all the ragezones luck stay with you + mine too ;)

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if i c her tomorrow i will ask her.:toilet_cl

Try to be open but at the same time don't offend her.
You know what would offend her and what wouldn't, so don't offend her. And when you talk to her, try to see from her perspective as well as your own.

I know (almost) exactly how you feel, in the same rough situation and it hurts and if she keeps doing things like this then she isn't worth it, I'm starting to think the same thing. Whatever happens we are allways here to support you and don't go jumpin of no cliff *Slaps Negata*. Goodluck in whatever you happen to sort out with her.

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Originally Posted by Morphe2

and don't go jumpin of no cliff *Slaps Negata*

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I don't see it as the wrong you think it is. Not nice to offend my beliefs. Serious.

:|? Beliefs? I'm confused now =/

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Originally Posted by Kaoii

Try to be open but at the same time don't offend her.
You know what would offend her and what wouldn't, so don't offend her. And when you talk to her, try to see from her perspective as well as your own.

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i will consider ur advice thx, same as all others.

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:|? Beliefs? I'm confused now =/

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You only say he shouldn't jump off a cliff because you believe ending one's own life is the ultimate wrong thing to do. I do not see it this way. However I don't know if there is afterlife and if there is, what it's like, so until I'm sure there's nothing (more?) to gain in this life I wouldn't end mine. This might not be the case for everyone and I recommend suicide to those. Death is a release from all the pain known as life.

I accept your beliefs and do not wish to criticize them, But i believe that jumping of a cliff isn't the best way at all to end your own life even if you should end it at all for there are allways other options i find.

But lets not get off track, this is a thread to help Warrior.

My girlfriend of 2 years recently split up with me, and Im still getting over it. There is easy way to forget someone you love, Its horrible for me becasue I really want to see my ex but it just brings up too many feelings I cant handle it, so I just dont see her. We speak occationally, but what makes it worse is that she split with me because she kinda like someone else :(

My advice though, just stay active, see friends, dont be on the computer much. I know you have all us here supporting you but it really dont help, its best just to get out and about. Just have a few weeks away from her, in that time try build up relationships with other girls. You will find there are so many nice girls around.

*sigh* life is tough..

man readin that reminds me of me. dude right its really hard to break out of your shyness, Im still breakin out of mine. I have moment were I am loud as fuck and moments were i dont talk lol. This advice is comin from me and im a wierd kinda guy and ya might not think its the right thing to do but its what im doing now and it seems to be working. Basically this girl who i was havin sex with, basically going out but she had a bf all along and i knew that and i was like when you going to finish with him for me? and she was like soon soon and it never happend she goes on hol and comes bk and then decides she dosnt want anything to do with me. So I was heartbroken, depressed, really down and felt like shit. But now im like NO one and I mean NO one breaks my heart. Dont let women fuck you around man. Fuck them around! They do it to us all the time but they seem to get away with it. Men have a reputation of being bastards so fuckin be one. Even if your the nicest guy around girls still think your a bastard because your a man and at the end f the day no one wants to die alone so they ALWAYS come crawling back. So I just dont pay her any attention to this girl anymore. Or I just drop sly comments here and there.

example I met up with her to get some things back and she knows me really well and she probaly thought I was gunna try get bk with her on this day and i was gunna buy roses n shit, proper throw the romantic shit down and get her back but I didnt this time. I got my stuff, hardly said a word and then left. and it was like an arkward moment when no one speaks so she was waiting for me to say somthin and she was looking at the floor most of the time. Haha so I fucking showed her. Nxt thing I know after she saw me that day shes been checkin my faceparty everytime she logs on expectin my profile to be about her because it was for a long period of time but its not anymore and shes changing hers to little things about me. you see how the table is turning?

Basically mate, she will regret turning you down, dont chase let her come to you.

just tryin to help!

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man readin that reminds me of me. dude right its really hard to break out of your shyness, Im still breakin out of mine. I have moment were I am loud as fuck and moments were i dont talk lol. This advice is comin from me and im a wierd kinda guy and ya might not think its the right thing to do but its what im doing now and it seems to be working. Basically this girl who i was havin sex with, basically going out but she had a bf all along and i knew that and i was like when you going to finish with him for me? and she was like soon soon and it never happend she goes on hol and comes bk and then decides she dosnt want anything to do with me. So I was heartbroken, depressed, really down and felt like shit. But now im like NO one and I mean NO one breaks my heart. Dont let women fuck you around man. Fuck them around! They do it to us all the time but they seem to get away with it. Men have a reputation of being bastards so fuckin be one. Even if your the nicest guy around girls still think your a bastard because your a man and at the end f the day no one wants to die alone so they ALWAYS come crawling back. So I just dont pay her any attention to this girl anymore. Or I just drop sly comments here and there.
example I met up with her to get some things back and she knows me really well and she probaly thought I was gunna try get bk with her on this day and i was gunna buy roses n shit, proper throw the romantic shit down and get her back but I didnt this time. I got my stuff, hardly said a word and then left. and it was like an arkward moment when no one speaks so she was waiting for me to say somthin and she was looking at the floor most of the time. Haha so I fucking showed her. Nxt thing I know after she saw me that day shes been checkin my faceparty everytime she logs on expectin my profile to be about her because it was for a long period of time but its not anymore and shes changing hers to little things about me. you see how the table is turning?
Basically mate, she will regret turning you down, dont chase let her come to you.
just tryin to help!

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listen to what niks saying, his thoughts are right

we all know how shit it feels to lose a girl, i guess you'll find your own way to deal with it eventually.

But from what i gather shes a good girl, so even if things dont go further down the road, you might not wanna lose her as a friend

well that really sux :-/ i read it thru and it sux big time it happened to me but nowhr near as bad as that (i cant drink yet) you can try n stay away from her but that makes you want her more, well 4 me it did :-/.
or try to tell her everything dont keep anything back just tell her the whole lot, if she feels the same way shes bound to go out wit u, if not then why wase a part of ure life on something that wont work :-/?

that kinda happend to me that, but then i ended up goin out with her.

and mate dont make ur self too easy get most girls like the chase if they can have u easy they dont want u, just ignore her till she comes to u, as a friend or sumthing else.

and nik's right men are catagrised as bein bastards so be one, i used to be the nicest guy round girls and it got me no were just be hard to get and dont take all there shit they throw at u.

and it get over her look for other girls that are intrested with u, and a bit of advice m8, girls who are models propper love them self think there "It" bad news, go for a girl who doesnt think shes that nice but she really is, there the girls who stay loyal