Split up after 4 years

Well i've been out with boys tonight feeling a bit like shite and smashed!

Anyway i've split up with the missus after 4 years and don't wanna speak or text ANYBODY that i know in the general sense (Work, friends yadi ya) So i thought i'd speak to my old school ragezone buddies!

Background story i was with her from 2009 up to june 2011 split up and banged everything that i could for 6 months thought id give it ago again as that lifestyle was lonely (mad as it sounds) but now 11 months down the line were back straight up in the same situation i've just told her to get her shit and get the fuck out of my house and she has. It's not even about other women this time i couldn't give a fuck if i sat at home bashing one out for a year as long as i can over this.

I'm a work a holic working mostly 7 days a week and shit has been grinding on my relationship for ages. I just wanna focus on getting over things.

As sad as it sounds i feel as i can express on here as there is no come back from anything (she has no idea what ragezone is at all)

Fuck women they are all twats! Anyway i need some support so yeah kthxbye! Rambling now! Woop much love MD

A night for splitting up....I've just done same with my relationship. Not good but it just wasn't working between us and tonight I've told him. =/

*hugs to you*

Sorry to hear mate :(

And also a sorry to you Miss Kitten.

Sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how it would feel, I've been in a relationship for 3 years, and we've had our problems, but I don't know how I would feel if it didn't work out.

Can be all split up and lonely together lol! I just need a release! With all the social networking and shite these days this is the only place i have no comebacks or "Ghosts in the closet" lol.

Cheers MentaL bad times mate bad times.

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Originally Posted by MasterD

Can be all split up and lonely together lol! I just need a release! With all the social networking and shite these days this is the only place i have no comebacks or "Ghosts in the closet" lol.

Cheers MentaL bad times mate bad times.

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Least you got it over with it, seems as if it wasn't meant to be, so it's probably better to just try to move on, even though its really hard

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Originally Posted by James

Least you got it over with it, seems as if it wasn't meant to be, so it's probably better to just try to move on, even though its really hard

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Good thing is everyone will see a hell alot more of me on here haha!

Just need a bit of "Get over it sex" a night out in Staylvegas my local night out would be ample opportunity. Probably won't sory my mush out.

Whens the next Rageparty behatchs? I'm getting back on it!!

I have the same experience.

I had a girlfriend since around start 2011 and we broke up once - I didn't have that much pain because i did like her but we didn't really knew each other so good that we could start a relation - I totally agreed with her and we decided to go out more and get to know each other.

So we dated a few weeks and we where at her home and she asked if i want to be her boyfriend of course i sad yes because we know each other so good that we where ready to start a relation and that we where able to really get connected.

So i was going out with her a lot during me and her being boyfriend and girlfriend and i was at her house on first Christmas day and she was at my house at the second Christmas day and she was at my house when we celebrated my birthday she gave me a birthday card (Which i still have in my drawer).

And time by time after that we kept fighting i don't have a clue why but she just kept moaning at my head because i came late once because my alarm was off because my batteries died i apologized to her many times and i even said that when i was on time then she was laying in bed and i kept knocking on the door calling her name but she didn't open the door she just kept sleeping she came to the conclusion that she wanted to break up and i told her not to because this fight cant end our relation in my eyes then and she decided that she just wanted it.

So since December 2011 am i carrying a lot of pain and I'm still carrying that pain and i don't know how to get rid of this pain because i keep crying and crying (Yeah you can say that I'm not a man now) but i really had and still have a lot of pain and that's because i really cared about her and i really was in love with her and now she just broke up with me because we where recently fighting whilst not noticing the holes in my heart.

I don't know like i said how to get rid of this pain and how to stop having this pain because it's really affecting how I'm now doing in real life against other people like: I'm not that nice anymore which i was before i met her and even when she became my girlfriend then i was a nice person really calm and now I'm just very emotional.


Don't know what to do I've tried going to the church but I'm still having the same pain and still having flashes in my head of things we did and stuff.

I just don't know what to do.

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Originally Posted by spruitje

I have the same experience.

I had a girlfriend since around start 2011 and we broke up once - I didn't have that much pain because i did like her but we didn't really knew each other so good that we could start a relation - I totally agreed with her and we decided to go out more and get to know each other.

So we dated a few weeks and we where at her home and she asked if i want to be her boyfriend of course i sad yes because we know each other so good that we where ready to start a relation and that we where able to really get connected.

So i was going out with her a lot during me and her being boyfriend and girlfriend and i was at her house on first Christmas day and she was at my house at the second Christmas day and she was at my house when we celebrated my birthday she gave me a birthday card (Which i still have in my drawer).

And time by time after that we kept fighting i don't have a clue why but she just kept moaning at my head because i came late once because my alarm was off because my batteries died i apologized to her many times and i even said that when i was on time then she was laying in bed and i kept knocking on the door calling her name but she didn't open the door she just kept sleeping she came to the conclusion that she wanted to break up and i told her not to because this fight cant end our relation in my eyes then and she decided that she just wanted it.

So since December 2011 am i carrying a lot of pain and I'm still carrying that pain and i don't know how to get rid of this pain because i keep crying and crying (Yeah you can say that I'm not a man now) but i really had and still have a lot of pain and that's because i really cared about her and i really was in love with her and now she just broke up with me because we where recently fighting whilst not noticing the holes in my heart.

I don't know like i said how to get rid of this pain and how to stop having this pain because it's really affecting how I'm now doing in real life against other people like: I'm not that nice anymore which i was before i met her and even when she became my girlfriend then i was a nice person really calm and now I'm just very emotional.


Don't know what to do I've tried going to the church but I'm still having the same pain and still having flashes in my head of things we did and stuff.

I just don't know what to do.

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I'm with you there bud, i'm the opposite i'm a heartless mofo and i don't mind admitting it. I look at things logically i'm buying my own house within the next year and half and me and her living together for more than a weekend would end up me in the pub most the time and doing things thats not good. She would drive me INSANE.

Anyway i hope you feel better and i really do hope u feel better the best thing probably for you is to get back out there and try find someone else, because it sounds to me you want a relationship. I'm past that i need my own space!

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I'm with you there bud, i'm the opposite i'm a heartless mofo and i don't mind admitting it. I look at things logically i'm buying my own house within the next year and half and me and her living together for more than a weekend would end up me in the pub most the time and doing things thats not good. She would drive me INSANE.

Anyway i hope you feel better and i really do hope u feel better the best thing probably for you is to get back out there and try find someone else, because it sounds to me you want a relationship. I'm past that i need my own space!

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Thanks bud i really appreciate it i have been feeling down for a few years/months now and i really want to get rid of it because it's just working on my behavior which i don't want because recently since the break up have i really been changing and have i really been doing stupid things.

Anyway thank you so much i really really appreciate it and i will get over her soon enough - Might need to just give a try to get rid of all the stuff she gave to me that might can take the whole pain away because it takes away remembering things i did with her.

Thanks

I'm also not really thinking anymore about the whole love thing it's really only tearing my apart and it's really making more holes in my heart which leads me to more pain and more depression and i currently don't want that.

I'll wait till someone comes stepping up to me instead that i keep stepping up to her that might be a idea.

Well put it this way, when i split with her in june 2011 she lived with me! When i woke up i seen her toothbrush and it reminded me of her and she was constantly texting me wanting stuff back so she was round every 5 mins getting stuff back. One thing led to another as it does and i was back in bed with her! That shit is not happening now.

I'm telling you now get a massive black bin bag and get her stuff and throw it in there. Find a bin or fire and launch it straight on top!

Best closure ever!

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Originally Posted by MasterD

Well put it this way, when i split with her in june 2011 she lived with me! When i woke up i seen her toothbrush and it reminded me of her and she was constantly texting me wanting stuff back so she was round every 5 mins getting stuff back. One thing led to another as it does and i was back in bed with her! That shit is not happening now.

I'm telling you now get a massive black bin bag and get her stuff and throw it in there. Find a bin or fire and launch it straight on top!

Best closure ever!

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Indeed I've already been burning her birthday cards and I've smashed her tea cup that she gave to me and it have really been working a lot of pain have been going away and I've also stopped listening to emotional music such as Mumford and sons and other sorts of emotional music which really made me emotional.

Thanks bro this really worked

Ahh just don't blame all women as they do to men. It only gets better with times

Always on the go - Crum

Sucks man, regardless of your feelings towards the situation, it's never a good feeling when you've invested so much time and energy into something that didn't end up being right for you.
It's even worse when you know it was all/mostly a mistake, obviously lots of relationships end but in some cases it has enriched your life, gave you a good time, and even tough at the end, you end up with good memories. If they are not even there, then that's just shit...

Anyway I definitely welcome your increased activity on the forums since it's always good to have you around. :)

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A night for splitting up....I've just done same with my relationship. Not good but it just wasn't working between us and tonight I've told him. =/

*hugs to you*

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I saw on FB, sucks... :S
What happened? How is Lucy feeling about it?

If you want someone to talk to then you know where to find me (well not yet, but I'm taking you up on the Skype offer from the other thread :P), I hope you are doing alright. :)

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Ahh just don't blame all women as they do to men. It only gets better with times

Always on the go - Crum

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Well i kind-off do blame the woman because they always have a reason to Moan and even when things are even they just need to have a little word after that which is really annoying.

But i can say and can prove that i have also made mistakes though but in this case she was the one responsible for the whole fight between us.

Somehow I doubt that.

PS: The pot calling the kettle black?


Btw proof me wrong that you have changed by accepting this comment and not moan like a woman, let's see if you can.

Its a woman's prerogative to blame a man for all the problems.

the truth is its 50/50 split. Its all mechanics, if your personalities aren't compatible then its not gonna last.

The past 6 months has been necessities, especially as we went to Playa del carmen Mexico in Auguest and i paid for the lot haha

Anyhow I've restored a bit after i got rid of all her cards and all the stuff she gave me because that also made me remember things that i don't really want to remember anymore.

If i thought about this whole point earlier then i would of not have to be all sad and all fed up and all emotional about her because forgetting is a good thing what i can do but you can't forget something when it's so near to you and it just keeps following you it will make you feel all sad and down

Same thing when you have stolen something that worthy and when someone is really emotional about it and you are just accusing that you never stole it - The bad feelings will keep chasing you and when you tell it you might have to take some time in jail but you have got rid of all the pain and all the pressure and all the guilt feelings that you had from doing that.

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I saw on FB, sucks... :S
What happened? How is Lucy feeling about it?

If you want someone to talk to then you know where to find me (well not yet, but I'm taking you up on the Skype offer from the other thread :P), I hope you are doing alright. :)

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I haven't told Lucy yet so will find out tomorrow. She will be gutted I know that much. I am ok...ask me again tomorrow night and I will have a better answer. >.<

Added to Skype. ^^

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Originally Posted by Evilkitten

A night for splitting up....I've just done same with my relationship. Not good but it just wasn't working between us and tonight I've told him. =/

*hugs to you*

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So what you're saying is that you're looking?

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Originally Posted by jMerliN

So what you're saying is that you're looking?

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Not right this minute no....not going to jump from one relationship into another.

Need lots of me time before I do that again. Men are pain in the butt at the moment so not going there.

Anyways MD hope you feel better this morning and ready to take on the world. O.O

So yeah thanks for helping me out MD your gonna be feeling better soon hopefully.

lets hope you restore

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Originally Posted by Evilkitten

Not right this minute no....not going to jump from one relationship into another.

Need lots of me time before I do that again. Men are pain in the butt at the moment so not going there.

Anyways MD hope you feel better this morning and ready to take on the world. O.O

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Lubricant should help. ;)

Yeah everyone needs time, especially when you have a child. :)

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Originally Posted by GohanSSJ

Lubricant should help. ;)

Yeah everyone needs time, especially when you have a child. :)

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Just no!!!

Problem not posting often, I forget to check my post for the sex predators out there O.O

Sex predators? Where?