Ah, dragon nest servers, I've been playing most of them for quite some time now and all the OP has said is true and would be my reasons for giving up aswell lol.
PlayDGN I played the most.
BlueDN I for some time but only in short bursts, the OP stats were quite fun but gets boring. (This one is now DNFires, bluedn shut down)
Dragon Oracle could have been so good, but the admin won't listen to anything the players say, I still post on their forum hoping it changes, such a wasted opportunity.
DNFires, server I'm currently waiting for to get working, OP stats again but can have fun for a while at least, portal bugs galore (DDoS is what they say it is, which it could be of course)
The rest you listed I tried but not enough to say anything about lol.'
But yeah, I've pretty much given up on dragon nest servers completely, none of the servers popping up are anything that makes you want to play for a long period of time, Dragon Oracle was close but admin is just another one of those admins who refuses to listen and we can see what happened to it.
Isn't there anyone out there who wants to open one up who has some experience with making a real, fun private server? I'd be willing to help with pretty much anything that doesn't involve setting the server up or coding, meaning like, CM or GM or Moderator or anything lol.
Still hoping for mmodevastation to open one up<3