How do I deal with..

[cameronmd]

How do I deal with a friend that owes me something thats worth money and has yet to give it. I asked for it before my account ended , he agreed. That was over 30 days ago. I let it slip a little till he kept spending and spending more money instead of saving up to pay me back. I've confronted him about it before but he keeps changing the subject. But I'm about to lose it, he is PISSING ME OFF.

Thats the story here is the problem. I need to know how you would deal with this? I've tried before as you can read but never worked. I plan to be firm with him if he decides to change the subject or blow me off with this crap. I'm sick of the way he does this. To me, if you owe someone you don't go around spending what money you have extra on crap instead you save up to pay him/her back. I would understand if he had bills to pay but he is 18 living with his parents still. Please tell me what you think if no one can really give me some useful input by tomorrow I guess I'll do it my why. Thanks.

 

[Ron]

Try to talk to him again and if he still doesn't listen to you then confront his parents.

 

[cameronmd]

Kind of hard when his parents speak spanish and very little english. I could always get my other friend(s) to speak for me because they know spanish.

 

[aznzero]

yeah maybe you should get your friends who can speak spanish to talk to his parents or something... exactly how much does he even owe you?

 

[cameronmd]

See this is how it went. They had sales going on for a gamecard for a game we both played. I had enough money from working at a JOB (I earned the money) to buy 2 cards. The sell was half price for each game card. So I got two then some other friends bought some. Then I saw he didnt have the money at the time to buy one so I said this to him "I'll let you have this if you promise to pay me back a gamecard before my account ends". I Made sure to repeat myself that he OWES me a GAMECARD not the money because I knew he would say "here is the $15 for the gamecard" when in fact gamecards normally go for $30. So after making sure he understood he owed me a gamecard and not money I gave it to him hoping he would give me a new one back before my account ended. I didnt mind having a small break from the game but now its been almost a month and he has bought $21 headsets and goes to arcade every weekend and ends up spending over $5-10 each week.

Its not a alot of money but its the point that he always pulls this ****. He never done it with things that costed me money but inside alot of games I played with him. But I atleast he would take real life **** to heart but I guess he is just another dumbass kid that cant grow up. If he is having problems or something he should tell me....

 

[DaCheat]

putting a gun to his head will work.

or kill his dog or something, either or.

 

[exclamatio]

just be stern with him mate, tell him u need him to pay it back and its fucking disrespectful if he doesnt, at least he should repay you the value of the gamecard when you bought it

the way i see it is you bought him something at a value of $15 so that is what he owes you, you gave him a break not charity

if he doesnt then **** him off he isnt your friend, this is quite funny because i read this yesterday and it applies here "if you lend someone $20 and you never see them again it was probably worth it"

 

[-Strider-]

Yeah what ex said, though personally I wouldn't lose a mate over 20£ i'd just be dissapointed and wouldn't help him out in future. What I did with my friend who had owed me two DVDs for ages, when he was round at mine I just crossed my arms and told him he was taking the piss about this. He's ordered them now. Now to also get the 40£ he owes me :/ He is a really good mate though, and he avoids me now because he's scared i'll be angry at him lol... just be just be stern and pleasant at the same time, have a little joke about it but tell him you do really need this and give him a date you want it by, like say you wanna be playing again next week.

 

[Rishwin]

meh i lend money to mates all the time and usually never get paid back, tho we find ways to fall even with eachother. like if i lent someone $15, then the next time we go to the movies they'd pay for my ticket ect.

you could always try that lol, if you're going to the movies with him and you know he has enough money with him, when you get to the ticket counter tell him that hes paying for your movie and walk off to get snacks or whatever. whats he gonna say/do? refuse and be forced to see the movie himself? not see the movie at all?

tho whatever you do, work something out with him, like strider said its really not worth loosing a friend over an amount that small.

 

[Dios]

Take something from him and dont give it back until you get what you paid for!

 

[Flameingskull]

be firm and don't let him drop the subject, if he's taking the piss then he's asking for it.

if worst come to worse knee him in the groin and then kick him.

 

[Pieman]

Just take it from him.

 

[omerta]

Just take it from him.

/aggree

 

[KongoIL]

He can't be a good mate when he is avoiding the fair payment, thats just impossible, I am not saying its all down to money, its all down to responsibility over your actions.

 

[DaCheat]

I still think killing his dog is the best option, but maybe that's just me...

If all else just steal it back.

 

[powamonger]

this seems like a good discussion when it comes to the matter of "lending" to mates etc, some people let it breeze while others take it more to heart. when it comes to the matter, id lend money if i knew id get it back quick or when he/she says they would (though gals never really fuk you over its just the boys that seem to) i've done it myself though lent money of people and just not given em back or taken a really long time to give back, but thats mainly because the've done the same to me in the past.

The guy you mentioned seems to me like the type of guy that aint going to pay you. dont let the anger get to you though, let it go for now and use your own means to pay for the game. now when it comes to you lending something off him you can then either keep it or hold it ransom till they give it back. what i would do was to get invited over and take something that means alot more to him then the gamevoucher or wahtever then he will definatly pay you.


but thats me just being spiteful and would be a laugh to see. if worst comes to worst though a gamecard tells you he cares more of his game then you so i wouldnt lend the guy anything in the future.

 

[-Legend-]

I suggest you just keep telling him, to pay you back and you need to money very urgently, if not then follow the rests ideas

 

[sutsurikeru]

Call immigration \o/

 

[Pieman]

Tell him you have cancer and that you need money to pay for an operation.

 

[TheDogsBollocks]

Tell him you have cancer and that you need money to pay for an operation.

Thats far OTT and shoudnt me made fun out of


Don't help in out in future is best way to put it, but i would still expect it back o.o