Need an Advice :s

[Camouflage]

well actually i didnt want post my probs here, but i need to be advised :x
me and my GF r toghether since 2,5 months and everything is billiant...when i'm at her place. she's living 250km far from me and i'm driving to her by train almost every 2nd weekend in the month (sometimes few times in a row). i got my birthday in 2 weeks...and she wanted to come over to me(she has got cash on the bank). i asked her yesterday if she has asked her parents for permission to come over to me. she said somethin like: "uhm dunno..actually i got to save money for a new PC^^". well i was pissed off and on-hooked(right word for throwing telephone away?^^). i was pissed off that her PC r more important then me...i would save every penny to drive to her place and be with her... after 10mins i told her on msn, that i got the feeling that i'm uninportant and nothin special for her..while she is everything for me! i do rly almost everything for me and i'm not the kind of guy who is playing games for example and ignoring her meanwhile(she is the opposite and isn't talking via msn, when she is playing, which is pissing me off too...had a discussion with her becuz of this...she did even cry becuz she didnt want to lose me...and i thought she changed her mind....but as u see she didnt). and she said to me, that the BF isn't always on the top of the list. i asked her when the BF is on the top. she said somethin like: when ur here for example. (means that she is loving me, when i'm at her place and isn't loving me anymore when i'm at home?? lol) this is sick. and i was on the verge of breaking up with her, becuz that hurt me a lot -.- i wanna talk with her today and want to decide of breaking up....

now my question. am i right? or am i just overacting?
should i better wait, or breaking up? :x 2 friends told me, that i should break up. 1 dude told me, that i should wait, talking with her, wait until she's gonna change, and if not, breaking up.

i just fucking don't know what i should do -.- (dunno if this is the right section^^..)
edit: sry for my lowbird english xD

 

[Rishwin]

Are you right? No.
Are you overreacting? No.
You are just an ass, that's all there is to it.

You want to break up with her cos she needs her money to save up for something instead of spending it to travel 250KM to see you? You are mad because while you are not there she has other things higher than you on her priority list? Honestly, get your own life and stop being so dependent on her; i'd kill for my GF to be as independent as yours is, stop being so whiny.

 

[michaelmnn]

Are you right? No.
Are you overreacting? No.
You are just an ass, that's all there is to it.

You want to break up with her cos she needs her money to save up for something instead of spending it to travel 250KM to see you? You are mad because while you are not there she has other things higher than you on her priority list? Honestly, get your own life and stop being so dependent on her; i'd kill for my GF to be as independent as yours is, stop being so whiny.

Wow.... ummm thats about what i was gonna say

 

[HeartHazard]

i will say your overreacting a little
seems like the 2 above me think you are and are you right no
well its in certain points,if you try looking it at her point of view you would understand,
that she has wants ,and she wants a computer xD,now i doubt shes trying to neglect you.
like rishwin said shes independent.
theres girls that depend on the guy ALOT and soon break up with them cause they're not with them enough even if your busy.so you got a good girl there,she likes the same things you like.dont look at the negatives so much in a relationship theres up's and downs you just gotta work them out maturely

 

[Camouflage]

guess ur right, but damn, i want her at my place and haning out with my friends and! with her-.-(few special times in the year would be ok) if she keeps like that she'll come in 1 year minimum to my place (she wants to start an apprenticeship in 1 year). thought already about it to send her money somehow (cuz it'll be the same then when i gonna drive to her)...dunno if that would be the right way
btw she told me already that she is neglecting me. but she can't do anything against it she said.

 

[HeartHazard]

lol
well then try visiting her more even if you are thinking abut the money or why dont try and stay near a place close by and tell her your going to be there for 2 days or something that should patch things up

 

[PostOfTheYear]

Don't be so sensitive about here, be independent to your girl, try to find a place nearby her so you could spend more time with her, and your a man, you should be the one going to her and taking her to your place.

 

[Camouflage]

cant find a place nearby her, becuz i'm in an apprenticeship atm :s
and @hearthazard i don't rly care about the money, cuz she's worth it (gonna drive in april to her for 1 week)

but ty for ur advices...guess i just had a wrong point of view^^

 

[gumby]

Get what you want man, there are plenty of girls who are willing to dedicate all thier time to you, Don't hesitate ending a releationship thinking you can't find anyone else like her, cause you always can. If you're not happy, then the relationship is useless.

 

[ChewBecca]

only 2.5 months?

god its not like its 2.3 years/

 

[DaCheat]

You sound like you're obsessive and overly jealous, two things girls REALLY hate...

I wouldn't be surprised if you're single within a few days if you keep with the attitude your at now.

 

[Iron Maiden]

Haha. Don't be a pansy...Seriously.

 

[michaelmnn]

only 2.5 months?

god its not like its 2.3 years/

lol, is that your personal record?

 

[Ron]

You're overreacting.

You have to give her space. If you really wanted her to come over then you should have told her how much you wanted her to, not getting pissed off and assuming you're not important to her.

Sure, it's understandable to be a little mad. Newsflash; not everything goes like you want it to.

If you weren't important to her then she wouldn't talk to you. Put two and two together before you act like a dick and go off on her for no reason.

 

[Tupac]

from my experiences with girls i find that long distance relationships dont work, there are 2 many factors 1. your constantly wondering what there up to if there with some1 else, 2. u miss them loads and that gets u depressed 3. when you do see them u get to clingy and needy wen u see them and alot of girls dont like that they like there freedom and inderpendance and tbh m8 i fink shes takin u for a ride, seems to me its always u payin for the things that you do and its u who travels to see her its not a good thing, relationships are ment to be about compimicing

 

[Camouflage]

i gave her space now...and didn't rly talked to her (she did...sometimes) and uhm it's not rly better now...she's saying that she does love me, but it feels like she ignores me sometimes.....she got something like "i fell in love with an angel " (mentioned to me) in msn but meanwhile she said to my friend, that the relationship isn't that good because i'm grumbling...but omg? i just want that she moves her ass and not just sitting on her fucking chair infront of her PC and waiting till something happens

asked her if i can come to her place for a week (she wanted that too)...but she got to ask her parents first..well it was planned 2 weeks ago. and she still didn't ask..(wanna visit her next week) and it's kinda annoying if she doesnt move her ass and JUST ask her parents for that. i bet she's playin MMO's instead..and THAT does piss me off a lot, because she acts like an addict(she was also kinda ill and had a pain or something she wanted to go on the next day to the doc...but she didnt. she stayed at home infront of the PC. the pain stayed)

like i said...gonna drive (maybe) next week to her...and gonna talk with her about everything...and gonna make a decision then

 

[HeartHazard]

lol theres really alot of people that as soon as they get on the comp they forget about everything.
when it comes to games thats even worse lol
but theres people that get absorbed in with other computer things,
and in most cases i think shes probly addicted to the computer most likely.
shes trying to live another life in games,lol be her knight in armor and save her before she becomes a
zombie like WoW geeks on the comp

 

[HOPEisDOPE]

The way you are acting towards her now is cute in the beginning, but can become annoying later on. I suggest you keep you give her some time to think over what she wants from you. Don't make it dramatic, just let her know you're not going to let her play games with you any longer.
I understand that you have strong feelings for her, but when things aren't working out, even when you're trying your best to make it work, sometimes its best to let it go before it gets too complicated later on. If you feel she is not meeting you half way, then you should walk away from the situation. If you don't, it may solve the problem temporarily, but it will keep coming back and you'll end up right back at square one again.
If you know in your heart that its not going the way you want it, then you shouldn't try to fight it. Sometimes its better to know when to give up.