seeing as everyone else is doing it.

[Kurt]

Ok so, hmm, how can i get into this, Well theirs this chick that'd ive liked most probably am in love with for so long literately over a year now. And well we've date 2 times in the hole time of knowing each other 3 years. We were both crazy about each other she told me I used to give her butteflys when we first meet and I was the same, so well we tried to date but she did live far away from me and was hell afraid of me and was shy and didn't see me much so she ended up breaking up with me because we never saw each other and I ended up arguing with about it >.<, K so the second time we tried again we saw each other more, but he bestfriend hated me.. since she thought i was going to take her away and I obviously wasnt so me and her bestfriend had a argument and my gf could handle that and broke up with me again.

After that.. my mate from work, started dating her.. they have been together for 9 months until the broke up recently (he treated her like shit, so much worse then I could possibly ever do even tho I cant do that to girls I'd treat them like an angel so nicely.), After the hole 9 months I was still inlove with her.. but we were just close friends and i didn't want to tell her cause I didn't want to put her in that situation so anyway.. after the broke up I told her I spilled my guts out, And so eventually after talking she said she was confused she said she liked me and another guy and didn't know what to do (ive been helping her with her problems for ages) so I explained out what she should do and she was like wow yeh I think i know what to do (this was like 1 week ago) she said she was going to see me this weekend instead she went to this party... on that day i got upset i was like she kinda lied to me, anyway so I rocked up to this party uninvited and the guy told me to fuck off I was like no i want to talk to cass etc, and so anyway I got 4 car loads of people to have my back since well we already knew they hated us so i was expecting a fight.. so I came prepared.. yet I was like fine I walked away and as I was doing that my friend (smart ass) through a bottle so well we ran (not realizing they chased us.. seriously) so then after running a bit we heard screaming so we ran back and my friend got mobbed by them.. so the hole night turned into this massive screaming and yelling and telling them there going to die (as the will on friday) but after all this I talk to her on msn, and I said hey.. i thought u said u were seeing my this weekend, she snapped at me and said i can change my mind and that turned into an argument again.. after me begging for forgiveness as I hate fighting with her we are talking tho still I want more and I'm finding it so fucking hard to do this.. I know I can since we were so close.

eh, sorry If there's like confusing parts in it I got tired of typing and I just wanted to let it out..

 

[Rishwin]

Well did she tell you she was going to the party instead or did you find out by someone else and she actually stood you up? If she just ditched you without saying anything then she does not feel the same way about you, but if she did tell you "no sorry, i'm going to this party instead, we'll meet up some other time" then you had no right showing up at the party. Also, if she did tell you about the party prior to it, did she say why she could not invite / bring you along?

 

[Skycut]

Oh jeez, you've done some pretty irrational things that you shouldn't have done. Instead of going to that party you should've just waited and asked her what happened. I suggest you try to settle things more slowly, try to talk back to her on a daily basis and avoid getting yourself into trouble. If she happens to miss out on going with you, try waiting and asking her what happened, and hopefully she'll have a good reason, if not, she'll make it up to you ( what she should do ). In a nutshell, just slowly build up you're relationship and avoid anything that might damage it.

 

[Kurt]

Nah I knew about the party she said she might go, but she said she wouldn't if I wasn't allowed, And no she never told me what she ended up doing on the weekend I just was like wtf she's at this party?

 

[Rishwin]

Umm yea, the macho 4-cars-full-of-guys-to-have-a-gang-war is definitely going to do exactly the OPPOSITE of what you want it to do when you are trying to get a chick. If you KNEW that there was going to be a fight then why the hell would you want to make it bigger by bringing more people? If there was just you by yourself there is a very good chance that he would either have let you in to talk to her, or worse case scenario - started a fight with you and she either stepped in to stop it or didn't, in which case you know that she doesn't care about you.

 

[Kurt]

Aye, I walked up to the door alone, They didn't see the people I was with.. And were talking again so I have no idea what she feels about me but I'm going to slowly work on her again =p.

 

[wounded]

Expecting a fight...shouldn't escalate it to that point.
But to be honest, that sounds like a relationship that would come into ruins, because she appears to care a lot more about what other people think of her and her reputation, than about you...no offense.
You seem like a cool guy from what I've seen from you on RaGEZONE, and I say you deserve better. She shouldn't care about what other people think, as long as you two are really in love. But this really seems like you're giving all the love and she isn't returning much or at all. You are prepared to get into a fight for her, and she gets mad at you for having an argument with her best friend...

Best friends usually don't like boyfriends / girlfriends, because they know that will cut into their time together.

I say you move on mate...unless you wanna spend all your time and effort into showing her that it's not all about the other people and her reputation.

Best of luck whichever way you go, kudos for sharing your problem.

 

[Kurt]

True, I'm after this other girl shes really nice, I'm pretty sure we'll work out. But still theres always a place for my first love (the girl im talking about now)

 

[TriumpH]

she will make a pussy out of you even if you 2 get together.

when ever she will argue with you , you will be like yes darling forgive me darling etc.

do not be afraid of a girl if you stand up for ya self
if she wants something from you, she will still want something from you after you told her your mind.

 

[DrMido0o89]

u try the other girl and leave the 1st girl if she really likes u she will come after u
there is a quote in our country says
rush after the girl she escapes from u,leave the girl she rush after u
when u stop talking to her she will find there is something missing in her life and she will be so curious to know why u stopped talking to her and when she find that u r talking to another girl she will be damn jealous and will try to get u back in her arms

 

[EgobrainX]

Kurt forget about it just remain as you are now, just good friends. If she realy liked you, she would had stayed with ya.
One of my best friends has been in a relation for like 4 years now and she lives like 60km away from his house and they only get together @weekends, so don't sweat about it and good luck with the other girl

 

[Tupac]

m8 hate to say this but ur in the FRIEND zone you have tried the dating thing with her and it never worked so now all you are is a friend. tbh your problem was being 2 nice to her and listening to her problems and being a FRIEND trust me m8 ive been there plenty of times it sucks and feels like shit. tbh your too nice m8, i no all girls say they want a nice guy but really how many of the girls out there get with nice guy? they say there 2 boring. really what you should of done is played it cool with her and acted not that interested even if you were girls like a challenge as much as the rest of us. and all this really is comin from experience, the girls i dont really care about and aint the nicest to them they propper love me and always wanna be with me and i walk all over them and they seem to like it, but the girls i really like and i make that mistake of being TOO nice to them (beleive it being TOO nice to a girl is a bad thing, ull go straight in the friendzone or someone they talk to wen they got problems nothing more) then they new they could walk all over me and it never worked out, i used to go on a few days with the girls i really like and then nothing ever used to happen after that.

if you get anything from this post, play it cool not too ager and let her no u wont jump thru hoops for her and uve gotta get out the friendzone make it painfully clear you dont want to be just a friend cos uve got enough you want summit more, and if you do go on a date again makesure you get a kiss at the end cos friends dont kiss well not really lol

 

[alexdesire]

Sounds exactly like a relationship i had up until a couple days ago.
I was tell her i still loved her etc. Until i just snapped and i made up my mind that i didnt want her and told her to go fuck herself.

/Fate

 

[Kurt]

Thanks for all the advice it helped a lot, I'm 100% that I'm not going to bother with her, I kind of realize that all I ever have done is taken her shit in, I'll probably just end up being friends.