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[JC/Raiden]

Before I get started with this just letting the section Moderators know that this ain't spam, although a thread like this one could easily get out of control so please delete the spam if I haven't notified you about it in the first place, thanks.

Right so the point of this thread is for me to aid you!. Let me explain for a looooong time now friends and family have been telling me what a gifted speaker I am and that I have my way with words etc etc. For a time I just accepted the compliments and moved on so to speak. But over the course of the last few days I thought to myself if I can TRULY help people then I wanna do what I can the best I can.

Please take note this thread is serious. And is for anybody that's feeling troubled and needs advice no matter what its in relation to I don't mind. Just as long as it isn't legal matters as I don't wanna get involved with stuff like that sorry.

RaGEZONE is a huge community and I've always done the best I can for it, now I wanna take the next step up. If I can help and touch the lives of people in a good way then I'm gonna strike while I have the opportunity. Hopefully Dan & Lee (Mental & Exclamatio) will fully back me up on this. I await the community's future posts .

Regards.

 

[EliteGM]

I'm in need of a little pep-talk..

So here's the deal:
My parent's are befriended to a german family by church or something, and they've just arrived here, staying for one week.
I don't really have much with them, and not at all with their children (a five-year old and a one-year old or something).
Tomorrow I've got the first 2 periods off from school and then my mom is to her work and they are still here =/

So yeah, that suxx =(

 

[Blame]

Ask Raff eh..
Cool
Well my girlfriend and I just got out of a 5-month relationship yesterday, and I think there's a girl who wants to go out with me, but I'm apparently not ready for a relationship yet.
What dooo I dooo, O Great One

 

[TriumpH]

On a serious note.

i got this damn habit of scratching my *** when in theater or a cinema. any ideas how to loose that?

 

[Initiate]

On a serious note.

i got this damn habit of scratching my *** when in theater or a cinema. any ideas how to loose that?

get a bag of popcorn, put a hole in the bottom, and and put your _ in it.
then when it looks like your looking for popcorn your really scratching you_.

 

[JC/Raiden]

I'm in need of a little pep-talk..

So here's the deal:
My parent's are befriended to a german family by church or something, and they've just arrived here, staying for one week.
I don't really have much with them, and not at all with their children (a five-year old and a one-year old or something).
Tomorrow I've got the first 2 periods off from school and then my mom is to her work and they are still here =/

So yeah, that suxx =(

Aha I see well unfortunately unless you get them "wacked" there isn't anything you can really do about it mate. These are times where you show the importance of what your family means to you so if you don't like the idea of putting up with it for your self then put up with it for your mums sake.

Personally in situations like these to "loosen the blow" so to speak I try to find the bright side of every situation. For example with this one it could be there only here for the week, it could be worse right ?

Ask Raff eh..
Cool
Well my girlfriend and I just got out of a 5-month relationship yesterday, and I think there's a girl who wants to go out with me, but I'm apparently not ready for a relationship yet.
What dooo I dooo, O Great One

I could really use more info for this one, such as was you in love with her ? What was the relationship like during those 5months ? And how did you treat one another ? etc. Tell me this and I'll beable to give you the advice you seek.

On a serious note.

i got this damn habit of scratching my *** when in theater or a cinema. any ideas how to loose that?

Your scratching is most likely down to bordem, or the fact that when your in a theater you've got to keep seated unless you go to the Toilet of course. This is a classic mind over matter cause, if you can't properly put your mind on the movie or just try thinking of something else excepting the scratching your self. Buy a drink or something to eat.

I only answered this really because you said "on a serious note" in future though my good man please pass on more "tasteful" questions to me lol ><.

 

[Blame]

Well I wasn't really going for her, she came after me, and she got out of a relationship too, so I thought, ''Well, why not..'' Because inside I really felt bad for her, so I went out with her, apparently for 5 months.. I guess I did kinda ''love'' a little during that time period. But when my friend told me she was thinking about cheating and she was ''feeling on other boys'' I said to myself ''what the flying fuck, that's it'' And I think you get it from there.

 

[EliteGM]

Aha I see well unfortunately unless you get them "wacked" there isn't anything you can really do about it mate. These are times where you show the importance of what your family means to you so if you don't like the idea of putting up with it for your self then put up with it for your mums sake.

Personally in situations like these to "loosen the blow" so to speak I try to find the bright side of every situation. For example with this one it could be there only here for the week, it could be worse right ?

Another bright side is that they go to bed earlier so that's my time .. tt1:

 

[Konrow]

Wow, truly awesome idea. Thanks for doing this Raff.

Anyway my question: I've been inot this girl for a pretty long time, and I'm pretty sure she's into me. So I'm gonna tell her how i feel and ask her out soon, but here's the thing. I'm going to see her this Saturday (she lives like 2-3 hours away so we don't see each other that often we usually talk over MSN/Skype all the time). Now, when I do see her it'll probably be while with her and a bunch of other friends of ours. So now how do i get her alone or when should i ask her out? Or should I just do it over Skype next time we talk? This is the only problem I've ever had asking a girl out. I think its because i actually care about this one way more than I have any other girls I've gone out with.

 

[JC/Raiden]

Well I wasn't really going for her, she came after me, and she got out of a relationship too, so I thought, ''Well, why not..'' Because inside I really felt bad for her, so I went out with her, apparently for 5 months.. I guess I did kinda ''love'' a little during that time period. But when my friend told me she was thinking about cheating and she was ''feeling on other boys'' I said to myself ''what the flying fuck, that's it'' And I think you get it from there.

Right I see although I think your decision was kinda rash, breaking up with your ex because of what other people was telling you. I'd defo say it's safe to say your ready to move on to the next girl because of the following reasons

-You wasn't properly IN love with your Ex
-Your not crushed about leaving your Ex
-And in result you wouldn't use this next girl as a means to "rebound" so there's no problems

With this girl that likes you though I know you didn't ask for advice about her but I must say if you both do get together. Take what OTHER people tell you with a pinch of salt, friends & family can easily cause trouble for a relationship so whatever you've been told about your girlfriend...always go see for your self first before you act.

Another bright side is that they go to bed earlier so that's my time .. tt1:

Aha see your getting the picture

Wow, truly awesome idea. Thanks for doing this Raff.

Anyway my question: I've been inot this girl for a pretty long time, and I'm pretty sure she's into me. So I'm gonna tell her how i feel and ask her out soon, but here's the thing. I'm going to see her this Saturday (she lives like 2-3 hours away so we don't see each other that often we usually talk over MSN/Skype all the time). Now, when I do see her it'll probably be while with her and a bunch of other friends of ours. So now how do i get her alone or when should i ask her out? Or should I just do it over Skype next time we talk? This is the only problem I've ever had asking a girl out. I think its because i actually care about this one way more than I have any other girls I've gone out with.

Aha I see I can feel your concern just from the words you've typed here, I can also tell you feel very self conscious about this. So this is what you do.

When your wanting to make a move on a girl believe me I know from experience a bunch of your friends can seriously ruin the moment for you and throw you off focus. And obviously having so many people around doesn't do well for your private time with her either.

But one thing you must remember is a nice genuine girl loves a brave guy that can swallow his pride to open out his feelings properly. So having said that do not do this over MSN there's a limit to how your able to express your self through typing, it's all about the body language and eye contact to it's all very important.

So during your day out with her and others, whenever you feel the time is right politely pull her away from the group by saying something simple such as "can we have a talk for a second please". There's no reason why she would refuse. So when you've said that that's your golden opportunity to tell her what your wanting to say. Best of luck to you my friend .

 

[Konrow]

Thanks man, that's just what I needed. You've pretty much confirmed what I was debating about doing, so I'm feeling more confident now. But yea you totally understood my situation.

 

[JC/Raiden]

Thanks man, that's just what I needed. You've pretty much confirmed what I was debating about doing, so I'm feeling more confident now. But yea you totally understood my situation.

Hehe my pleasure man thanks for sharing and please let me know how things go, she'll love you I promise .

 

[Blame]

Hey, thanks man, you are definitely awesome.
I feel alot better now

 

[Madison]

Well Raff, seems some good advice you have there, I'll ask what is on my mind as well.

You see last saturday I went out to fetch my mail from the mail box. When I got out to the mail box, the box was not as it should be. Apparently someone took it upon themselves to smash my box. I was pretty hurt when I saw this. I mean, I live alone, I talk to no one, I bother no one on my street. So why would they do this to me? Ok I admit I kinda cried a little, I guess it felt like a personal attack.

So I walked back to the house and my neighbor came out, and told me her mailbox was also messed with, although not as bad as mine, she said hers was spun around backwards. Mine apparently was on the ground but the mail carrier put it back on the post.

My question is, should I just replace the mail box? should i replace the whole pole, its kinda crooked from before, and should i go for a plastic box or a metal box?

 

[JC/Raiden]

Hey, thanks man, you are definitely awesome.
I feel alot better now

My pleasure matey, best of luck to you and your new Girlfriend. Take care of her .

Well Raff, seems some good advice you have there, I'll ask what is on my mind as well.

You see last saturday I went out to fetch my mail from the mail box. When I got out to the mail box, the box was not as it should be. Apparently someone took it upon themselves to smash my box. I was pretty hurt when I saw this. I mean, I live alone, I talk to no one, I bother no one on my street. So why would they do this to me? Ok I admit I kinda cried a little, I guess it felt like a personal attack.

So I walked back to the house and my neighbor came out, and told me her mailbox was also messed with, although not as bad as mine, she said hers was spun around backwards. Mine apparently was on the ground but the mail carrier put it back on the post.

My question is, should I just replace the mail box? should i replace the whole pole, its kinda crooked from before, and should i go for a plastic box or a metal box?

Unfortunately this sounds like the typical work of a bored group of Chavs :/. And if that's the case the last thing you'd ever wanna do is feed them with the attention and the reaction there after. Another unfortunate thing about this is telling the Police would do no good either unless you actually caught them during the act.

So there's 3 ways you can look at this. There's the Plastic Box, the Metal Box (the 2 which you stated) or no Box at all. so.....

-A plastic box, cheaper to buy but again faces the risk of being smashed again.
-A metal box, more expensive to buy but alot stronger sturdier. So a better "investment" in the long run.
-And then there's no box, I mean we don't really have them round the areas I live so if the post can just come through the letter box door (the door to your house) that be much safer anyway.

I hope I've given you something to think about, Chavs are a disgrace sorry I couldn't be more help.

 

[Madison]

Unfortunately this sounds like the typical work of a bored group of Chavs :/. And if that's the case the last thing you'd ever wanna do is feed them with the attention and the reaction there after. Another unfortunate thing about this is telling the Police would do no good either unless you actually caught them during the act.

So there's 3 ways you can look at this. There's the Plastic Box, the Metal Box (the 2 which you stated) or no Box at all. so.....

-A plastic box, cheaper to buy but again faces the risk of being smashed again.
-A metal box, more expensive to buy but alot stronger sturdier. So a better "investment" in the long run.
-And then there's no box, I mean we don't really have them round the areas I live so if the post can just come through the letter box door (the door to your house) that be much safer anyway.

I hope I've given you something to think about, Chavs are a disgrace sorry I couldn't be more help.

I live on a motor mail route, so they wont come to put it in my door on my house should I choose to move it.

We don't have Chavs, it was probably a bunch of drunk ppl...

the plastic boxes were $10 the metal were $12. neither seem sturdy, the current one is metal.

 

[ChewBecca]

raff
you know that guy i told you about, well he totally stoped texting me altogether,
i do like him

then i got this other guy, that i met time ago, and he is texting me over the top like ,and i dont really like him, well i do as a mate, but not like fancie.

and he keeps asking 2 see me....

 

[JC/Raiden]

I live on a motor mail route, so they wont come to put it in my door on my house should I choose to move it.

We don't have Chavs, it was probably a bunch of drunk ppl...

the plastic boxes were $10 the metal were $12. neither seem sturdy, the current one is metal.

Hmm I see well it's good that it wasn't the work of Chav's. I mean all of us at one point or another have been involved in the mis-fire of drunken idiots so hopefully it won't happen again. The great news is it wouldn't have been a personal attack either.

Is there any chance you could get your Mail Box relocated ? Closer to your door step perhaps ?

 

[Junkers]

I got a question for you.

Some of the more senior staff are really annoying me by calling me Cushion (Moofin's explanation was something... disturbing) and several users have started joining in. I've said I find it embarassing yet the continue to do it. What should I as an individual do?

 

[JC/Raiden]

raff
you know that guy i told you about, well he totally stoped texting me altogether,
i do like him

then i got this other guy, that i met time ago, and he is texting me over the top like ,and i dont really like him, well i do as a mate, but not like fancie.

and he keeps asking 2 see me....

Oh dear >< it just goes to show that you can never be to sure about someone unless you've got them to put on a Wedding finger, and even so you still can't be 100% sure lol.

Have you considered other possibilities such as he's unable to text you because of credit etc ? And how long as he actually been quiet with you because that will tell me alot before I go in to detail so more info would be nice .

As for this other guy, the last thing you can do is EVER let something drag on because it always ends up badly. Just like with weeds it's a bad idea to ever let them grow, you need to tell this other fella asap that you don't like him in the way he does but you value his friendship. It's never easy to do but trust me you'll have alot more like this to deal with in the future.