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[JC/Raiden]

Raffasaurus i have a question!

So my gf wants to "uh uh" but she insist on not using protection because she takes pills.

Yet i want to just to be safe and extra careful and recentley she's been trying to get into the mood and take advantage of me forgetting about using protection.

I ask her to stop and what not but she ignores it.

What should i do?

This is quite the amusing question lol .

It's great to know safety is your prime concern in Sex, because realistically it should be. (like we've all not heard enough about Teenage pregnancy to last anybody's life time) But in all honesty unless your seriously unlucky mate and I can't stress the word unlucky enough everything should be fine.

As for what you can do, well...there's very little you can do unless you actually refuse to sleep with her without you wearing a Condom. At the end of the day though if you was to be as unlucky as I've already said then at least you've covered your back because you wanted to wear a Condom where as your Girlfriend insisted you didn't.

Anywho the Pill is a very good contraceptive, and on a lighter note....Sex is so much better without wearing an annoying Condom -_- lol.

Happy Humping lolz ^_^.

 

[Laced]

This is quite the amusing question lol .

It's great to know safety is your prime concern in Sex, because realistically it should be. (like we've all not heard enough about Teenage pregnancy to last anybody's life time) But in all honesty unless your seriously unlucky mate and I can't stress the word unlucky enough everything should be fine.

As for what you can do, well...there's very little you can do unless you actually refuse to sleep with her without you wearing a Condom. At the end of the day though if you was to be as unlucky as I've already said then at least you've covered your back because you wanted to wear a Condom where as your Girlfriend insisted you didn't.

Anywho the Pill is a very good contraceptive, and on a lighter note....Sex is so much better without wearing an annoying Condom -_- lol.

Happy Humping lolz ^_^.

Lol, kay.

Dry hump till then? ;D

LMAO.

 

[xXMaxxyXx]

Raffi,

I'm in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend (We got back together)
and I feel awkward now since we got back together, I'm meaning I'm just not "loving her the way I want to" anymore :S.

Should I just end the relationship because of that, or continue the relationship and start knowing her and loving her like I use to?

 

[JC/Raiden]

Raffi,

I'm in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend (We got back together)
and I feel awkward now since we got back together, I'm meaning I'm just not "loving her the way I want to" anymore :S.

Should I just end the relationship because of that, or continue the relationship and start knowing her and loving her like I use to?

Well...First of all you need to ask your self what does the heart want, because unfortunately your the only person that will ever know that. It's difficult for me to really say much about this as you've not said much your self.

But if your with this girl then you should feel at least something for her, unless your just with her for the sake of "claiming" her as your own. If you feel nothing for her then spare the girl the needless stress and just break up with her while this relationship your both in is still new. If you do care about her in a loving way then man up and give things between you a chance, because more then likely this awkward feeling that you've got in time will just go if you genuinely want her.

 

[xKathieee]

I has a problem~

There is this dude whom I have been in a relationship with for like 4 months? (I count it as 1) And after I dumped him, he's still loving my ass. But a few weeks after the dumping, I got with another guy, which I love better of course. And now he's being a total a hole and won't leave me alone. I block him, he always gets a way to talk to me. Luckily, we go to different schools. I`m like gtfo man. ... . . . .

 

[kuribohgx]

Is raff the only one allowed answer questions?

 

[♠ Ryeeye ♠]

Hey Raff,
How could I make 3 dollars completely on the internet by today so I can buy my subscription?
I'm 15.
What would you suggest? Pay by click sites aren't working >.<

 

[JC/Raiden]

I has a problem~

There is this dude whom I have been in a relationship with for like 4 months? (I count it as 1) And after I dumped him, he's still loving my ass. But a few weeks after the dumping, I got with another guy, which I love better of course. And now he's being a total a hole and won't leave me alone. I block him, he always gets a way to talk to me. Luckily, we go to different schools. I`m like gtfo man. ... . . . .

You say "he's being a total a hole" ? By he I'm assuming your talking about your ex ? Either way...

Honesty really does go a long way. Most people these days believe that by ignoring a problem it will just vanish, as though it never were. Couldn't be more then wrong as the problem keeps coming at you and the longer you leave it the worse it tends to get.

Instead of dodging the guy just tell him exactally how you feel about things, if your not the type that doesn't like confrontation then speak to him over msn instead seeing as you already have his address. Once you put your foot down on this it will all end I promise you. If it doesn't...then get back to me.

Is raff the only one allowed answer questions?

Isn't that kinda obvious really ? By reading the thread title and my introduction to this thread.

Hey Raff,
How could I make 3 dollars completely on the internet by today so I can buy my subscription?
I'm 15.
What would you suggest? Pay by click sites aren't working >.<

Erm...I can't be much help here as I don't get involved with anything like this. But 3 dollars ? That's like 1 pound 70/80p nothing at all really lol. If you can't lend the money from your parents then mow somebodys lawn or wash a car. Very easy stuff and you can get plenty of custom from that.

 

[xblackcat]

Just a quick problem. I really can't seem to concentrate. I really don't know why. Theirs usually nothing on my mind. I will usually be in school while the teacher is talking about the lesson, and about 5 mintues later i just seem to daze off. This happens quite a bit when i'm doing homework or school. Any suggestions?

 

[♠ Ryeeye ♠]

Erm...I can't be much help here as I don't get involved with anything like this. But 3 dollars ? That's like 1 pound 70/80p nothing at all really lol. If you can't lend the money from your parents then mow somebodys lawn or wash a car. Very easy stuff and you can get plenty of custom from that.

Lol, I know 3 dollars is nothing. I have it right in my pocket tbh. But, the problem is, my parents frown on PayPal and buying stuff online, and I don't have a credit card. I tried Pay By Click sites but, they take a huge amount of time to get the money. My friend tried bux.to and cashed out at 11 dollars, however he's still waiting for his money after almost 2 months. That's why I'm asking if you knew any faster alternatives or somethin'. If not, I'll go back to clicking, no biggy.
Thanks for the help

 

[xKathieee]

You say "he's being a total a hole" ? By he I'm assuming your talking about your ex ? Either way...

Honesty really does go a long way. Most people these days believe that by ignoring a problem it will just vanish, as though it never were. Couldn't be more then wrong as the problem keeps coming at you and the longer you leave it the worse it tends to get.

Instead of dodging the guy just tell him exactally how you feel about things, if your not the type that doesn't like confrontation then speak to him over msn instead seeing as you already have his address. Once you put your foot down on this it will all end I promise you. If it doesn't...then get back to me.

Well yes, my ex. I try to ignore the person, not the problem. I already told him, we're over, I lost all of my interests in him. I already told him, and of course real life, I`m like ._." thanks for the help . Next time the dude tries to talk to me, I'll see.

 

[JC/Raiden]

Just a quick problem. I really can't seem to concentrate. I really don't know why. Theirs usually nothing on my mind. I will usually be in school while the teacher is talking about the lesson, and about 5 mintues later i just seem to daze off. This happens quite a bit when i'm doing homework or school. Any suggestions?

Hmm, well to me it clearly seems that you have very little interest to what your teachers are saying. It's Human nature really if something isn't "gripping us" then we'll casually stare in to the sky, sometimes without even knowing.

Just like with anybody that's in school you need to have self-motivation if your ever wanting to really succeed. It just all depends if your wanting to be just the average perhaps below student that leaves school with nothing impressive to really show, if that's the case then carry on day dreaming I guess.

Perhaps this will help you, by law you have to go to school anyway unless your wanting the social services knocking on your parents door step's and fining them alot of money and even worse taking them to court if things got out of hand. So while your at school just put the effort in to concentrate, because unless you decide to sleep on your desk then you've nothing else better to do while your there anyway. This also applies for your homework to.

Lol, I know 3 dollars is nothing. I have it right in my pocket tbh. But, the problem is, my parents frown on PayPal and buying stuff online, and I don't have a credit card. I tried Pay By Click sites but, they take a huge amount of time to get the money. My friend tried bux.to and cashed out at 11 dollars, however he's still waiting for his money after almost 2 months. That's why I'm asking if you knew any faster alternatives or somethin'. If not, I'll go back to clicking, no biggy.
Thanks for the help

Sorry mate as I explained before I don't get involved with those kinda things, making money on the net etc. I will tell you this though, make the best choice of your life and never ever use credit cards. There honestly nothing but trouble, they make you feel rich as you can spend spend spend. But the money isn't yours you always have to pay it back. And generally you have to pay back more then you spent in the first place anyway. There a tool of the Devil lol, so whenever you get any through the door just snip it in half.

Sorry I couldn't be more help anyways, this thread isn't for such problems as the one your having but I do my best with answering anyways.

Well yes, my ex. I try to ignore the person, not the problem. I already told him, we're over, I lost all of my interests in him. I already told him, and of course real life, I`m like ._." thanks for the help . Next time the dude tries to talk to me, I'll see.

mm that's very awkward actually, I can see your problem more clearly now. So he's a obsessive guy huh. In which case there's very little that you can do about him as you've clearly already told him the score between you both, so if you get rid of any sort of contact towards him and just ignore the guy he'll eventually give up. The same goes for school as well, just ignore him completely.

If you feel things are getting really out of hand, then it's proberly best you tell your parents and the head master of your school as they'll beable to keep him away since he's harassing you. best of luck to you hun x.

 

[Mike]

Hmm.

Looks like a great thread to ask stuff like this...

Well, in my young life, I've had 4 girlfriends I believe. I've never kissed any of them, except for the one I have now, we'll say her name is Fiona. (it isn't really, but I'm not gonna go around the internet using real names)

I really like this, Fiona girl. We've been going out for a month and a half, and I have feelings for her obviously... But last night, we were watching a movie at my place alone, I had my arm around her, and had my hand resting on her side. She grabbed it, and moved it up to her breast though. I kept it there all night, and sometimes just slowly rubbed it.

I have two questions for you now, Mr. JC.

1) When you're holding a girl's breast, what should you do? Just rub it slowly? Do what?

2) I want to go further with her, should I? I guess this question isn't really for you, as I should probably be asking her?

It's kinda personal, but it's a serious question.

 

[JC/Raiden]

Hmm.

Looks like a great thread to ask stuff like this...

Well, in my young life, I've had 4 girlfriends I believe. I've never kissed any of them, except for the one I have now, we'll say her name is Fiona. (it isn't really, but I'm not gonna go around the internet using real names)

I really like this, Fiona girl. We've been going out for a month and a half, and I have feelings for her obviously... But last night, we were watching a movie at my place alone, I had my arm around her, and had my hand resting on her side. She grabbed it, and moved it up to her breast though. I kept it there all night, and sometimes just slowly rubbed it.

I have two questions for you now, Mr. JC.

1) When you're holding a girl's breast, what should you do? Just rub it slowly? Do what?

2) I want to go further with her, should I? I guess this question isn't really for you, as I should probably be asking her?

It's kinda personal, but it's a serious question.

Aha now that sounds like a interesting night

Anyways mate if your girlfriend did that then she's obviously comfortable with you "caressing" her, slowly of course otherwise it would just have just completely broke the mood between you both at the time. So you made a smart move there. And for future reference use that same technique, unless the girl is really wanting it bad always be gentle with the one your with.

As for going further mm, try not to feel tempted to rush things between you both. Your both still very young and the last thing you'd ever want to do is make a mistake you'll both regret from the heat of temptation. The truth is when it comes to "making love", it's not something you'd usually ask your girlfriend especially during the first time. Because if the time, moment & mood is right you'll both realize it. Just like how things between you both were last night. Just remember though, don't force your self upon her, be gentle

 

[Mike]

Yep, thanks

I can't sleep now, my god, I got like 2 hours of sleep, I can only think about her now.

Thanks for the advice JC

 

[ChewBecca]

hey raff
that fucker asked when i was gonna go to the pub again, asking he wanted to see me again, and we had a pretty long convo over text,
now hes stopped again
jesus christ this guy is doing my head in, and like i wonna forget him but i cant...

 

[JC/Raiden]

Yep, thanks

I can't sleep now, my god, I got like 2 hours of sleep, I can only think about her now.

Thanks for the advice JC

Hehe best of luck to you man!

hey raff
that fucker asked when i was gonna go to the pub again, asking he wanted to see me again, and we had a pretty long convo over text,
now hes stopped again
jesus christ this guy is doing my head in, and like i wonna forget him but i cant...

This is all Psychological darlin. Your struggling in your mind with this guy because your the one that's chasing him while he's "playing you". We've spoke alot about this guy and I've told you several times already that I don't trust him at all.

He knows what he's doing though because he's got you hooked like a fish. You honestly need to take a step back and really try to convince your self with whats going off here. Clear your mind and be smart, the best way to convince your self of this guy is by testing him without him knowing of course.

Leave him alone, if this guy really is interested in you then he'll start making the effort to keep in touch with you and hopefully start chasing you. At least then you'll know he's bothered. But anyways, as I've said to you before this guy seems very flaky in my eyes and isn't worth the potential heart break.

 

[kuribohgx]

Hey Mr.Raff I am in need of some assistance.

My problem is similar to Mike. The exact same thing happened except my girl friend started to undress. At first i was thinking "Hey i get to have sex now, cool" but after she got naked, I thought "Wait a min, I'm 14. I shouldn't be having sex!" So I told her it isn't right because of the fact that we are too young.

As for my question, should I have sex with her next time that happens?

 

[JC/Raiden]

Hey Mr.Raff I am in need of some assistance.

My problem is similar to Mike. The exact same thing happened except my girl friend started to undress. At first i was thinking "Hey i get to have sex now, cool" but after she got naked, I thought "Wait a min, I'm 14. I shouldn't be having sex!" So I told her it isn't right because of the fact that we are too young.

As for my question, should I have sex with her next time that happens?

:blink: wow...

Your Will must be made out of Iron, I can't imagine your Girlfriend being best pleased though lol ><. Anyways...like I said to Mike if you don't feel ready then don't go through with it. Sure your at a young age and I'm amusing she is to ? If it's your first time then don't ever rush in to it just for the sake of saying "you've scored that's one notch added to my belt" only total arse holes think of women as a game piece.

If you both honestly care for one another, and in your heart you feel ready and you want to have sex because you want to express the feelings you have for one another then that's different. Personally the move you made was the right one really, and although age is a factor don't let it stop you no matter who frowns upon it. After all nobody knows the way you both feel about each other, except for you two.

 

[kuribohgx]

:blink: wow...

Your Will must be made out of Iron, I can't imagine your Girlfriend being best pleased though lol ><. Anyways...like I said to Mike if you don't feel ready then don't go through with it. Sure your at a young age and I'm amusing she is to ? If it's your first time then don't ever rush in to it just for the sake of saying "you've scored that's one notch added to my belt" only total arse holes think of women as a game piece.

If you both honestly care for one another, and in your heart you feel ready and you want to have sex because you want to express the feelings you have for one another then that's different. Personally the move you made was the right one really, and although age is a factor don't let it stop you no matter who frowns upon it. After all nobody knows the way you both feel about each other, except for you two.

Yea, we are both 14 and this is the first time for both of us.
We do love each other very much but I don't feel comfortable being a 14 year old that has sex. I'll wait until I am a little bit older. But if the time comes where she wants to do it well i guess I will have to agree. The good news to this is that she has a abundance of condoms/pills so it would be fine.